i managed to only abstain for three days i am scared i do not know what to do i have only shame and disgust with my self
I feel for you, not simply because of 3 relapses on the same day, but with your feelings of shame and disgust. I suggest you remember how awful those emotions are and use them before you relapse in future, as a kind of a deterrent. Also, I was the first person to respond when you came to the website at Christmas. Did you do what I suggested back then? See here: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...ow-i-am-lost-please-help.208137/#post-1821085
Yes, you really do ramses. The post I linked you to suggests tips and tricks to help you. It is best to see it like a menu. Just pick out a few things you will do to get started. Then keep checking back to it and try some more. You will improve buddy.
well so far i am doing cold showers and small exercises i plan to do much more as the time goes on but most importantly every time i get an urge i see it for what it truly is
OK, you have made a start. Keep adding another tip - one or two a week. You will get better at preventing relapses and not binging if you relapse once.
Try to improve your lifestyle, I think you cant quite from PMO without it. Try getting fit, any cold shower and healthier food
I have a useful tip for urges, it works wonders for me. Male addicts view women as 'meat', especially the chest. Sure, it's normal to be attracted to them, but dehumanising them is not. Here's what you should do: Imagine a row of buckets in front of you and the girl you are thinking of sexually. Imagine taking her outerwear, and putting it into a bucket, then her innerwear, then rip off her skin, then her muscles, tendons, ligaments, bones, each one getting a bucket. Slowly you deconstruct her body. Do it to her fat, her organs; those round, juicy eyeballs, imagine all the blood, sweat, tears, urine and feces and put them into a bucket. You don't have to literally count the buckets, but try visualing the different parts. Focus on the buckets that disgust you more intently. Try looking at the breast fat now, with that red blood sureounding it, squishy, unfirm, or whatever else that's repulsive. I got this tip from a succesful fapstronaut. It rewires an over sexually-conditioned porn addict to respect women, as you visualise the horrific 'meat' girl. I'm not married, but according to that guy, he tried it on many women, till he did it on his wife. Since then, he's never wanted to see her wife as other than her ownself. Do this when you have bad thoughts, and on porn videos.
I have a history with hentai by the way. When I was 10, my good friend told me 'porno orgy', and so I searched it up to see what he meant by it. I didn't get hooked on porn, but seeing naked women, triggerred me. My sisters loved anime, so I searched Google Images for certain characters I knew, but nude. I did that, eventually switching to hentai, till I was 12, so, hentai remains the first porn I have ever watched, and I absolutely hate it.
You can do it. From experience, the journey to Nofap can skew a person's thought process. I was in your spot too. Instead of days it was hours if not just one. Soon enough I found out that perservence and commitment turned my addiction on its head. Hours transformed into days, which then transformed into months and progress started to shape. I doubted myself so many times but the only thing I could do was fight. Trust me you can get there. What helped me was examining why I want to do NoFap and what's exciting about succeeding to move forward; personally, I want a life without PMO because I don't know what it's like, but it's definitely better than needing a crutch like porn
I guess the only life I knew without PMO was at 9. I want to experience it in a puberty-hit body. I want to start 'living'. I've definitely improved since my first days of NoFap a few years back, so I'll be grateful for that.