Now I think I've reached a perspective where I believe that chasing after girls and obsessing over them, trying to get a girlfriend is not what I should be focusing on. I feel very immature whenever I have this goal. I would much rather focus on myself and my life and my hobbies which I see as my main goal for a very long time or my entire life. Now with that being said whenever I do talk to girls just because I find them attractive or I want to ask them out, regardless of what their response I feel a boost of confidence after and I care less about what they think of me as I do this. Should I continue to do this? However I don't want to be chasing girls. I think it's more of doing it for myself I guess???? If that makes sense? It's more I'm trying to build confidence and get used to talking to girls rather than trying to get a girlfriend but I admit I still want one at this moment but would rather focus on me. So should I continue try talking to girls while mainly focusing on my hobbies? I don't know if this makes sense at all. But if you understand me I'd appreciate your feedback nofap community .
I’m essentially trying to do the same thing and you’re in the right direction keep on talking to them and get experience but keep on focusing primarily on your goals I think you have a healthy balance and understanding don’t stop what you’re doing
Thanks guys. Any ideas where to meet girls and talk to them where it isn't so weird other than campus? Where do you guys go?
Here is my opinion. You do stuff in order to improve yourself. Keep doing them. But do them TO IMPROVE YOURSELF, not for the girls, if you do it for the girls you kind of lost in the beggining. And for about the girls, the more you are going out, and socialising with people, the more likely you will find someone you are attracted to. Bar, club, street, over a friend, social networks, are the places where you can meet some girls. Also, my advice would be when for example you go out, go out to have a good time, not to find a girlfriend, and that girl will be attached to your good vibe and good mood, otherwise you will just look a bit of desperate. Good luck with it !
Haha anywhere I guess im still trying to figure that out is being at school to your advantage it’s easier I’ve been struggling since graduating but being on NoFap for a yr and a half I see my mindset is holding me back just be open to meeting them anywhere it’s up to you
It mainly depends on your goals and perspective on life but despite other comments I believe just being occupied by the idea of getting girls or telling them they are attractive (wether you care about their response or not) is an empty and meaningless thing to chase, maybe fun to try here and there but shouldn’t be taken more seriously. Is your counter correct ? 500+ days ?
Hmm I see your point. But I mean talking to girls I’d otherwise just be attracted to but never take action. Like a pretty girl in my class for example.