10 months of no PM! (spouse) I'll keep this update short, but the journey from 9 months into 10 was pretty sporty. As usual, for you new people here, there is no magic pill or expiration date where your problems automatically stop after a specific date. Progress is not linear, as i have discovered again this month. If you stay faithful to your commitment the trend for progress will be upward! There will be rocky moments in between...these moments, thoughts and feelings won't necessarily go away. What really changes is how you perceive yourself despite these feelings. Your attitude towards your situation and progress is what must change. A renewed mind is imperative to move forward in this journey. To simply cease watching P and thinking about P is not enough. In the 10 months I've been clean, I've had to continually put this into practice. Whatever you do, whatever you believe, you have to replace your thoughts. You have to stay positive and believe you can change. Anyways, that's it for now! I am excited about my 1 year coming in a few months. If you skip the rest and only read this last paragraph, the only thing i can say is this: Stay faithful! Stay positive! Cheers!
Dam I can't imagine 10 months I'm still looking to get back to 100 days. How do you stay committed so long
This is exactly it. Willpower only, e.g. thinking "I won't watch porn", will not help in the long run. The urge will be strong and the willpower too weak, hence a relapse will happen sooner or later. One must replace the habit of looking at porn with a bunch of other habits, constantly remind yourself what you are doing and raise awareness. This needs work and a lot of time.
You have to really want this, you can't give it an expiry date like what I'd do in the past. You're doing this for yourself but most importantly for your family. Family is my main motivator.
Amazing well done 10 mouths feels like a life time away and can only imagine what it feels like to get that far. Big respect for you