What i would change: If i could travel to the past: I wouldnt get into PMO. I would carefully choose my friends. Receive homeschooling if possible. Study filmmaking, anime drawing/animation, psychology, research instead of graphic design. Try to move to own place after university. Make the effort to socialize more and get girlfriend and then wife. Convert to Christ much earlier. Dont watch the vulgar movies/tv shows i saw. Dont so the stupid goofy stuff i did.
I wouldn't get into PMO also. I would hold my friends way closer. Try to movie into my own place immediately. Have faith a lot earlier.
I think we are all going to say no PMOing. I would change a few choices I have made when it comes to relationships and be more present and less afraid of changes.
this thread is a good stress enducer. How about focusing on things you can change and accept the things you can't?
I concur. Everyone has regrets that they'd like to go back and change. In my case, there are too many to list. At this point, I think it's easier to make the changes now that you wanted to make earlier. Sure, Questionite can't go back and be 22 years old and working on his confidence and interactions with women, but he can hit the gym, eat better and work out what it is he actually enjoys in life. (that last one is really tough). Don't try and change the past - change your future.
Y' know what? Yeah, probably it is because I am 17 (started hard PMO addiction at 6! funny story), but I wouldn't change anything. This journey so far was something I have never, and most people don't even experience in life. I have been given lessons people can dream of, the failures and drastic, big and painful losses as a result of PMO gave me perspective only a few people have. This addiction has shown me my life passion, allowed me to meet people I wouldn't have met another way. Simply said, without that brutal PMO addiction I wouldn't be the person I am. So I encourage you to go one step further into recovery - and that is veery important - become grateful, happy for that you were addicted. Ofc don't start loving addiction - it IS A BAD THING! But remind yourself that without that addiction you wouldn't be here, you wouldn't know self-improvement, you would live a standard mediocre life without even a chance to change it! Now you have tools, viewpoints, stories to help you achieve anything in life - and you wouldn't have them if you didn't fall into addiction... It is nice to think what would be if I didn't spend those 10 years in addiction, yeah, to make calculations, 2 years of pure time I could invest into something, 5 more years of pure time where I wouldn't walk as a dead zombie - yeah, a lot of time in which I could accomplish really anything, become the best programmer in my area, become social master, with the greatest skills in my country, spend time with my grandparents while they were alive... ohh man, that sounds so good (at least to me). But, think yourself. If I really gave you that magic wand and really be a little flick of it, I would remove your addiction - you would never ever meet pornography. Do you think that just by that you would live a better life? That you wouldn't get into another addiction [in the same circumstances you WOULD]? That you would work your ass off to become the best? That you could gain the knowledge you have in another way? This is a wake-up call brothers And past is something we can only learn from, as it cannot be changed. And in the same meaning, it is only a waste of energy to think in a regretful way "what if"... and as a quote continues - don't spend energy destroying the old, but building the new. You can see results immediately
Not get into porn and fapping, study hard so I would complete my engineering degree and not drop out... not break up with my girlfriend then.
I would change nothing because even if I were to stop myself from fapping off, my wasted middle school years would be meaningless and I would just be a mediocre person. So nothing it is.
The problem for me was that I had a very gradual introduction to this addiction over the past 40 years... so I cant say I wouldn't do PMO in the way we know now. The problem is no-one knew it was an addiction... we were just highly sexed or even pervs
I wouldn’t change anything. Everything bad that has happened shaped me to who I am today. 2 years of PMO came and ruined me, but hell will always come before you break free. Once you break free, you become much stronger than ever before, and other possible springs for other addictions seem like nothing. TLDR: nothing