I did it. Exactly three months. I honestly don't know where to start, so I'll tell you everything. NoFap opened my eyes and helped me understand things I was not sure of. So, let's start. From the beginning I started because of a breakup I broke up with my GF about 4 months ago. I honestly felt like shit. I blamed myself even though it was no one's fault. Tbh, we met on Tinder so the only reason we met was because we both swiped right, not because of our interests, our friends or whatever. Later I realized she was kind of cold hearted, she never told me she love me (only if I said it first) but I loved her, so I did not see it. To all fellas here - If you feel you are more romantic and more love-demanding than your girlfirend, THE RELATIONSHIP IS BAD FOR YOUR MENTALITY! Because of this, I was kind of jealous and, hate to say that, a bit clingy. So one day I realized this relationship is crap and ended it. I felt like I lost my masculinity, I just entered an emotional rollercoaster. My journey was kind of ok Let's face it, you don't really tend to masturbate when you are emotionally down. I was looking at self-improvement videos and somehow found this nofap thing. Let's do it now! I said and simply began. I never felt the urge to watch porn, because I never watched it too much, so no big deal. 3 months? Are you crazy? Later on I talked to few friends and I mentioned my three month journey. They looked at me like I was about to cut my penis off. I listened how I cant do it, or how masturbation is healthy, how I will explode after one month and so on. I adore personality, not the body!! "OH F*CK I'VE BECAME ASEXUAL!!!" Yeah. That's what I was thinking few days ago. It began on month 2, when I realized I don't tend to look at woman like "I'd tap that." I have read it's a part of nofap if you can feel a bit asexual, so I just ignored it. But it persists to this day. I got scared, but later on I found out THIS IS PART OF BEING CURED. If you are looking at girls like "would bang, would not, would bang, would not" you are doing basically the same thing as watching porn. You are picking them by looks same as in porn. Women will notice it Women know if you are picking them just by lust. They can sense fake interest. But now, when you feel the "asexual" (the curing process, you won't feel it later don't worry) you will actually want to know her personality, her thinking, her life. And if you like her, you know it's because of her, not the looks (not saying you will start seeing ugly rhinos beautiful, but her looks is not priority to you) Testosterone is what makes a man Your body is your engine and testosterone is a fuel. You are pheromone walking bomb now. Your beard grows faster, your voice is deeper, your walking is slower. You are not depressed, you are positive, nothing is a problem, everything has a solution. Your engine is full of fuel and you drive wherever you want. You want to meet girls, you are not scared of rejections because you know your way and your goal. You think sharper, sleep better, workout better, socializace better. You can get a date easier. You want to explore places you've never been before. Yeah and you burn fat as hell. Your interests must be more important than women and they will love it Imagine you have a small special part in your brain. This part is filled with your hobbies, your interests. This brain part helps growing your personality. This part is very sensitive and you should protect it. If you have zero hobies, your brain starts putting women in that part, THAT'S ULTRA WRONG. The less women in there, the better. All your hobbies goes in that part and will be there forever, because it's you. But if you put woman in this part of brain, it's her, not you. So when she leaves, the filled part leaves also. Women want to be in that part of brain, because it's the most sensitive and most caring part of you and they know it. Low testostreone man have no hobbies because they are depressed Now what I did it. The worst thing you can do now is bust a nut while on porn site. I also do not want to bang a girl just because. I want to end "O" in PMO naturally and hope it will be with girl I really love. I want to thank everyone who supports guys here. And for those, who struggle - never surrender. You are aiming for something really big and trust me, it's worth it.
Congratulations Adopted! Great job!! Well done! Your post was very inspiring as well! Thank you for sharing!
I sincerely congratulate you and hope to do what you've done in terms of abstaining from fap. Currently, I feel like I'm stuck in a rut and uncomfortable with myself.
Great post..Its inspiring. I have goal to do 90+ days streak.. and I am more inspired now to achieve it.
I am happy for you that you reached you goals. Well done! But I don't like this thought of being asexual...You say it is part of being cured, well ok. I am glad it works for you, but I was really hoping my sex drive and libido would return like I had before porn...
Your libido will return to the level it was before P, but you have to get through the adjustment period that your brain undergoes. It’s like you’ve been holding a pendulum way to far to one side(PMO), before it resets to the center (normal healthy sex drive) it will swing to the other side (low libido). It might actually swing back and forth for a while before leveling out. Search the forums for “flatlining” or “flatline”. It might help you understand further.
@SpiritVessel Thank you for explaining! I am already familiar with the flatline, and it sounds totally worth going through this phase to then afterwards reach the other side with great sex drive again. But lately I have been reading so many stories of people who say they never regain their sex drive.... They can be free from PMO, but no longer have sex drive. Scary! Regardless, I will push on through. I dont want to go back to PMO anyway.
I’m glad I could help, @Arnulf. It was the perspective change that I took which made flatlines easier to deal with and not seem so scary. To your point: All of these stories are anecdotal. Each person is sharing their experience. Just remember that some of the guys who actually heal themselves might not come back to post their success stories, they are busy with a newly discovered, healthy sex-life. These forums are often filled with posts from people who are dealing with the difficulties of the process. Also realize that everyone’s background and dedication is different. The deeper the addiction went or the less committed they are to the healing process, the longer the readjustment will take.