its getting warm. I was doing well. I went to town. Oh boy did I get hit with these perky young fresh super hot girls with their super cute energy. They tempt and they like to. I can see this. I would do the same. Three serious triggers I had. I am determined not to let go but to move this strong urge this caused into something else.
Tell me about it, challenge yourself to look at their eyes before anything else eyes on the prize brother
I can do this challenge and I can act normal. Not like a pervert but you know if you have a young pretty perky girl that has no bra. I see this in a fractio ..bends and does not mind....to grant a deep look and then another one with such a cute ass it’s beyond concentrating on the eyes...something hit...especially now with day 17...I find something new that I can actually love and work with it without totally dumping myself into it and end up lost... .
I like your honesty. You really struggle huh? Well I do too. But not because something external caught me like you. I do this too tempting and reading your post maybe am more cautious...I always played and loved to get guys on the hook. I want to change these things. But for sure not possible overnight.
I have the opposite problem. I go to a big college and interact with girls and am trying to find a girlfriend but have struggled to connect with anyone. I have undergone a successful reboot and don't objectify women but I am not overwhelmed or tempted by anyone. Maybe my standards are too high but I'm not just worried about looks. I'd be lying if I said physical attraction wasn't important but I have yet to find anyone I'm interested in romantically based on their appearance and personality. What am I doing wrong?
It's good to wait and not settle if there's no real interest. I'm in a college environment too most days, and I think joining extra classes and social clubs is the way to go. I'm pretty sure there's only a very small % of people out there that are compatible for any one person... I'm like you I think, I find many girls attractive sure, but I lose interest if there's no connection when we actually talk.
Don't let it control you. You have to be aware of your thoughts and steer them somewhere else when you see those tempting things. You know deep down it's not worth it to fall to things like that. Each one of those women is a person. They have a life, and issues, and problems, and they deal with everyday things just like everyone else. Try to look at them as people, not just as sexual objects of your fantasy. Easier said than done of course, but you have to try.
Can definitely relate. I guess it's just a matter of being patient and continuing to meet people. I don't want to settle but I don't want to be single either. Hopefully I will meet someone I really like soon.
It’s not fansay at all. It’s real. It’s sexual energy that arises with the beauty and attraction a sexy female can evoke. Odontologie work with putting other ideas on what I experience. It’s rather for me embracing this reaction this energy the beauty of a girl and accepting it as a beautiful fact while not getting pulled then into a sexual urge. These are two different things. The one is a enormous fight against reality the other one a training and practice to utilize what is in the right way....I know this to be the right approach and works for me. Not always successful and also getting sucked in at times that’s why I am here
That person was deleted involuntarily. I believe that's always the case when it says "deleted user." If they delete their own account, I'm pretty sure it still says their username and just says "guest" under it. That's what all my old posts from my old account say.
I'm really struggling with this matter, i see girls this way everyday and its causing chaos in my brain. I just want to avoid watching woman like that. Hopefully with time, there will be a shift in the brain.
I know. It’s very tempting especially now in summer. I fought many many years. Still do but things shift. I find solutions. I found that along the way this issue brings up a lot f reflection for me and this reflection again is key for me to make small changes that leads to a shift over time. But key was always to stay on it. No matter how frustrating or troublesome.