Hey guys i hope you have a good and pmo free weekend,this is not going to be a long post EDIT : ( it actually became long sorry)... Few weeks a go i was checking (off-topic Discussion) and i found someone recommending the book no more mr nice guy ...i was drawn by it's title ... It was weird...being nice is cool, right? , So i downloaded the book pdf ( not proud about this one ) but i didn't open it and went for sleep .... Few weeks later, yesterday when i had no wifi and had nothing to do i remembered the book and decided to give it a shot i read 3 chapters and today i read another 2 ... These 5 chapters were enough to change my mind and opinions about so many things in life. I want to let you know that i had a fucked up childhood and a fucked up teenage life , my parents are the main cause of it , and as much it hurts me to say this but it's true ...i grew up to become a typical "nice guy" who is willing to do anything to make sure people like him, to make sure people think he is ok, he is a cool guy ... I became a guy who is afraid of doing what he wants because someone may not like it and be upset...i was just doing whatever will make the day pass without any problems even if it would hurt me or make me unhappy . I would sit there and let someone talk trash about me and i pretend that it's ok and put a smile on my face despite being so angry about it but i would do it avoid any problems and to let The day remain smooth and peaceful....i gave up on many of my rights .... I became a (not so nice) person...and i became addicted to porn... I became lonely and anxious miserable person... it's a very hard and bad life .... But i found this book! ... And i found that i wasn't alone who's living like this...the book is describing what I am suffering of very accurately...it's like he is talking about me! ... I was very surprised about how accurate it was . I am very thankful i found this book and i am willing to do whatever it tells me to do to overcome this shit in my life ... To feel happy and appreciated again ...i will continue reading the remaining chapters of the book and i will do whatever it takes to recover . I wrote this to everyone who is having a miserable life like the one I have right now . And i am sorry i am not too good at writing posts or essays or whatever and also i am not too good at english but i really wanted to share what i feel with you guys ...read the book if you feel similar to me... Fucking have a control over your life...and that's it ...
I'm glad someone is mentioning this book on here. I stumbled across No More Mr Nice Guy recently gave it a shot. FANTASTIC BOOK. It helped me realize a lot of the reasons behind my stupid actions in the past and make peace with them. I think that book is one of the reasons I decided to quit porn actually as it talks about how nice guys are typically addicted to pornography. Don't worry about what other people think. That's key to stop being a nice guy. The book goes into more detail of course.
I didn't read the whole book because I don't think much of it applies to me. I did get a lot of valuable insight and a punch right in the face from the author.
I like the book along with Mark Mansons “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck”. The takeaway is pretty simple in that we need to practice prudence in our actions. Being nice doesn’t mean being a people pleaser, since that’s not being nice if it’s confirming someone in their errors. Sometimes the nice thing to do for someone is to tell them they’re wrong or to tell them NO! A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
I was not sure how to vote, content is great, English is fine, but man just use fuckin paragraphs (couple enters to divide text would do it) and it would be great as a whole. The big unstructured chunk of text is always painful to read. I think you misinterpret being nice for being kind. I dont think you can be genuinely nice but you definitely can be genuinely kind.
really.....woaaaa.....we should kill those only few who are bad...woaa....i...mea.nn............................those who are no more good according to you. ( not my me..)
Yeah,igot the same punch on my face ...i thought i was a very nice dude, but turned up to i am just a sick person. Very mind changing\opener book!
brother you can think many things but you are saint.... you dont even know it that you are an big saint.....