To you, is love a choice or a feeling?

I say love can be both a choice and a feeling. Sometimes you can't explain why you love someone or something and sometimes you genuinely have to make a choice and reinforce it on a regular basis.

 

Love is a choice because it involves the intellect and the will. You cannot love what you do not know.

 

Love is a choice. It is just caring, compromise, respect, trust and openness toward another human being, and to love is a risk, so you must be able to let yourself be vunerable to truly love another. Relationships built on the choice to love will last well, if both partners are capable of it.

Infatuation, crushes, and hurt from not having love returned are feelings, and many people mistake them for love because of the intense feelings of yerning or pain from the heart area - but they are not love. Relationships based on these feelings long-term will be rocky and intense, and probably not last.

Love must flow freely both ways for a relationship to survive. When it flows both ways there is bonding; bonding is a deep connection and is on spiritual levels. Both partners must be capable of and make the choice to love. (In my experience, porn addiction is a block to this being able to happen.)

 

i like this, it is like helping your fellow man/woman.

 

This is devotion not love. Fehr x

 

you can love god with all your heart and all your soul, it is both devotion and unconditional,but i think i understand what you mean.

 

What do you guys think about choosing who to love?

I find it weird, like when I'm looking for a girl to get serious with, I feel like I should love them first - but that never seems to happen. Is that because I have to choose to do it?

 

i think u look for a partner or SO and there might be many things you dislike about them, but you realise you two could be a good match so you overrule that by choosing to love them; at least that's what i think.

so if you see someone who could be good marriage material and youre not quite attracted it is always good to get to know them and things can change. you can develop an emotional bond. laura x

 

"Love is a feeling to be learned" - Walter Trobisch.

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"Love" is a word used in many different ways, making it possible to use the word both as a choice and a feeling. Still, when asked the question I would answer that it is a choice first and foremost, because it involves the will, the willingless to do, and the actual doing. Exemplifying this broadly, I would say that "I love you" implies something I do, just like "I hit you". Now if "I hit you" , it seems to indicate that "I do not love you".

 

Love is a feeling.

Allowing yourself to love is the choice.

 

Only a sociopath would consider love to be a choice.

 

? Care to explain that one?

If someone says love is a choice, that doesn't mean they have no feelings... It just means that they don't consider those feelings to be "Love."

 

Not necessarily, but they probably have a screw loose somewhere.

 

Again, an explanation is necessary for your opinion to have any weight... Just saying someone has a screw loose is not an argument.

 

I don’t give a fuck if you think my opinion has “weight” or not. Demand an explanation from somebody who cares.

 

have u ever been in love poseidon?

 

I’m in love right now. <3

 

great way to answer the question anyway its clear your baiting cassteaelle because of her own vulnerabilities; but if you get back with an real answer would be interested in hearing i love reading fantasy lol. laura x

 

Geez, calm the hell down. I was genuinely curious why you believe what you believe, and I find it odd that you refuse to give any kind of answer. Kind of seems like you haven't thought about it much and don't have a good reason, so you don't want to say it and be proven wrong. But whatever, have fun getting mad and swearing at people for no reason. I was actually curious to hear why you think that, to see if maybe I would agree if you explained it, but I guess conversation is too cool for you.