What I want to know is if porn can get you attracted to certain body types or parts. I'm 1 month into nofap hard-mode and I'm having trouble with the urges, but what bothers me the most is that when I see women with Spoiler: TW thick thighs I feel that my heart stops for a moment. This reaction does not happen with truly beautiful women, I think it is almost animalistic in a way, I really wish I could see women in a different light and be completely confident, but I feel that I'm VERY weak to these. Worst part of it, is that a member of my family has this body type and I have decided to keep my distance from her because I can't avoid the sexual thoughts. Anyone with similar experiences? Will nofap "cure" this?
Well man, your brain was rewired by porn, and during this no PMO, you'll cure, but it will need time. Yes, the feelings that you have I have them too, because I was attracted, and I still am somewhere inside my brain to Spoiler: Don't read if you have an urge right now asses and riding effect but I am here to fight forget this pervert mind and bad thinking. So yes, porn can make you be attracted to something especially or a body part.
Thanks for sharing, I feel like shit when I see a trigger and all my confidence goes away and I instantly feel some sort of "brain fog". It drains me of any self control and makes me believe I have made no progress
I think it's inevitable that you'll have 'episodes' like this during a reboot. Your body is used to being satisfied (read: drained) sexually, so when you cut out all forms of sexual stimulation and release your brain will try to find it any way it can, even if that involves projecting your desires onto people around you. I'm sure it will pass. That's not to say that we don't all have certain body types or certain specific things we find attractive and prefer, but that intense hunger should abate.
What scares me is that this problem with a family member occurred before I even knew of nofap and has been a thing for some years now. I'm scared it has nothing to do with porn, yet this feeling also comes from other women so I don't know what to think RN
You may have started nofap now but you haven't reached the point of reboot yet. At 30 days, while you may be beginning to feel some benefits, I think you brain is still very much wired in porn-mode. The same mode it's been in ever since you started using porn regularly and ever since you started having these urges about a family member. You may not have realised it until recently, but your mind and sexual proclivities have been warped by porn that entire time.
Reading both these posts leads me to believe that maybe this fetish isn't porn induced and is just a natural part of your psyche. This isn't inherently a bad thing, it just depends on how you handle it. The way you describe the urges is exactly the same as how I would describe it however, so it could also be porn. I know that isn't particularly helpful but my point is that its impossible to know until you have gone long enough to objectively make a distinction between natural arousal and PMO arousal, which isn't truly arousal at all and is infact just dopamine cravings.