Hi do anyone here plan to reward themselves with a treat after reaching a specific number of no PMO? If yes, what are your plans? Thanks. I plan to reward myself with a cute Asian prostitute after I reach day 90 I just hope she will be able to handle all that build in energy/testosterone in me.
Uggh, I have seen this a few times on the forum... Don't reward yourself with the prostitute. Pornography is fake, and prostitution is all fake. A bunch of fake feelings, that's all it is. Reward yourself with something better. I remember at day forty I rewarded myself with an exciting fishing trip with an old friend of mine. at around day 150, I went rock climbing. The point is, do something that's challenging and exciting. It's good to do something exciting every once in a while overcoming this addiction. Why? Because PMO is exciting, and replacing it with something else new and adventuress will help keep you from relapsing. Don't do it... And don't say, "But hiring a prostitute is exciting!" Seriously, don't. Hiring a prostitute is easy. Listen to me. I am at 200+ days, I know what the hell I am talking about. ~Squeaky Soul
Thanks for your concern but I'm still going aheard with the plan. I use their/prostitutes service and I will continue to do so.
Squeaky is 100% correct. Why would you replace porn with something just as fake? After you're finished with her, you'll feel just as empty and shameful as you would after PMO'ing. And you will have just spent a ton of money for that feeling.
Dude I watch a movie like the dark knight trilogy or lord of the rings or Bourne every 30 days. Listen heres the thing with prostitutes its basically porn. Its "real" but its just fantasy. Why not you try to get a girlfriend or a female friend perhaps and learn the emotional side of life not the hard humping part. Its basically money you could spend having fun and trying to get girls. Just rethink it from now to the 90 days. We can't make you not do it but really think hard if thats what you want.
For me prostitutes as worst than PMO because when you PMO you hurt yourself but with prostitutes you also hurt others. Besides, I don't really see the point of quitting if that's the kind of rewards you give to yourself. Do you temporarily quit just to have a mega powerful orgasm at the end of a streak? Just my two cents. But I'm 200% against prostitution. This is true Evil. Also, for me porn is prostitution. So you're quitting porn, but not prostitution? It's the same for me. And to answer your question, I earned myself the tattoo I am literately dreaming of for my 6 months anniversary, unfortunately I hadn't time to do it yet. I can't wait
You're gonna crash and burn vlaw. It takes a certain mindset to succeed at NoFap. Hiring prostitutes does not fit that mindset. Feel free to prove me wrong, but you won't make it to 90. I reward myself with a longer streak. I reward myself with reaching other goals in life.
"Why not you try to get a girlfriend or a female friend" I'm sorry but I want absolutely nothing to do with western women! "Its basically money you could spend having fun and trying to get girls" Well aren't we all paying for it in someway?
"You'll feel just as empty and shameful as you would after PMO'ing." Well no. This is absolutely not true! I don't have any of the side effect of PMOing after I pay a girl visit.
I don't know what the f you have with western women. You've probably had a very hurtful experience and I'm sincerely sorry for that. But what's making me extremely uncomfortable here is that you're talking about a TREAT, like a sweet or idk, and then this treat is a HUMAN BEING. Human beings aren't for consumption. That's one of the reasons I don't watch porn anymore and why I'm struggling to get over my celebrity crush. Humans aren't for consumption. The fact that money is involved is making it even more perverted for me.
So you are against WILLING prostitution, right? Isn't it HER BODY, HER CHOICE??? Like are feminists like to say.
I'm against prostitution users. Period. I refuse to start this debate knowing that you already have placed a judgement upon me. I answered your question, gave my two cents, the rest is history. I wish you the best towards your journey. This will be my last words: you should watch the movie Whore's Glory. It contain definite triggers, but it is an amazing insight on the life of both willing and not willing prostitutes in Thailand, India and Mexico if I recall well. It moved me deeply. Oh, and I forget the best part: the soundtrack is so good, and features three CocoRosie songs (I won't lie, this is the first reason I watched it yo).
Well you can be against something and not have your view/opinion forced on someone else. You see the only problem I have with most people who are against prosititution is that they want willing prostitution to be illegal. They are usually the first one to scream her body, her choice when it comes to abortion but not prositution. Hypocritical...don't you think?
I don't think anything else but that I didn't gave any other information other than what I have clearly started and you're so on the track of your thoughts that you don't even realize it. I have the right not to say anything more and I have the right to say more if I wish so because of freedom of speech. Of course my freedom stops where yours start but it is also the case for you. I am definitely against it. I won't say that I believe that I find your choice right because I would be lying and lying is disrespectful. However, you're entitled to your own freedom and as long as it is not illegal where you're at, there is indeed absolutely nothing I can do. I'm not your mother. Besides, you're trying to pull the discussion towards a totally different subject.
I feel like there's a lot you don't understand vlaw. If I were you, I would do something way more special. What you're doing is not special at all. I don't know what you have against Western women, but you should totally date one. Give them a chance, be in a REAL relationship, be a grown MAN! Real men don't hire prostitutes... ~Squeaky Soul
It seems like you are still in the "porn" mindset to me. You need to try and get out of this. It will be interesting to see if your low opinion of women changes after your reboot. If you do go ahead with the prostitute idea you will probably be back on porn the day after. Good luck and keep us up to date.
"but you should totally date one." I don't think I can handle all that nagging from feminized western women. "Give them a chance, be in a REAL relationship," I'm sorry but I prefer a STRESS-free life. Thanks anyway.