Great streak at your age. You say forever but saying that at 15 is same as say it at 3 years of age. Im on my streak until today yet have to experience wet dream. Simply been careful and taking cold showers before sleep when I felt wet dreams are close. Also saying to subconcious mind before sleep - I will not see sexual dreams- helps to wake up even without erection. I wake up with erection only if I havent took cold shower before sleep and urges are stronger those days too.
For some reason the benefits actually freak me out. I don't want them to stir my motivation and make me too cocky. IMO what you said here about the benefits becoming normal isn't a terrible place to be in. Seems like your life without PMO is gaining ground.
Hi pcmaster. I think you are an old timer here. Nice post, but is it not counter productive to affirm something like "I will not" instead of affirming "I will"?
It's tougher on people who grew up watching porn compared to those who discovered it during their adult life. But more importantly it is about how EXTREME your addiction was. If you lived on softcore for 8 years, you probably won't be as affected as those who watched extreme or even gay stuff (for those who are naturally straight) for just 2-3 years. So yes, the number of years does matter but also does the extremity of the addiction.
Hello there. Yes, my life without PMO is gaining ground - "problem" is, that without PMO there is nothing left to blame...but myself. What I want to say is, that getting rid of PMO does not automatically solve all your problems. But with it out of the way, I can concentrate on other things.
Once you are addicted, you're addicted, even if you manage to stay away from it for a long time, do not go back to PMO, EVER. You will just start all over again. I know it seems unfair that so many other people who do it can do it when they want, but because we like PMO more and want more of it, we should never have it, seems really messed up but that's the way it is... Leave PMO behind and NEVER go back to it.
I've researched this, you ask any addict and at least 95% of them will tell you that you should leave it forever or you'll just get addicted again.
IInspired by lots of your experiences , I dont think your boring in fact I think you are very interesting individual with great qualities and room for exceptional achievements, remember that your beliefs make you. If youve never had a chance to look at the book , "no more mr.nice guy" look at it its good.cheers
The end of the year is coming closer and it is time to think about the pros and cons of my NoFap journey. At the end of this month I'll post a list of things that crossed my mind, but for now I'd like to say, that I am still very proud of myself. Sure the last year was not without its ups and downs, but when it comes to "not fapping" I can safely say, that I achieved what I was hoping: a perfect record. There were many strange moments psychologically: from the battle of good and evil in my mind (good being not wanting to fap and bad being the reasons why fapping would be the right thing to do), to the constant thoughts about life, love and loneliness. As I mentioned before, I still think it is mandatory that we all should adjust more aspects of our life to become a different, and therefore, better person. And even if it seems hopeless sometimes, remember that every day is a new opportunity to change for the better and every obstacle is a chance to grow. So I wish everybody who is reading this all the best, and may you all get whatever you are looking for...
You have every reason to be proud! As you probably already know for many this is not an easy challenge and like you mentioned there are many ups and downs. Judging by your counter I have no doubt by now you will accomplish your goals. I noticed you are 77 days ahead of me. We can do this! I look forward to reading your 1 year post.
Thx my friend. The main benefit of the NoFap website to me is, to know that I am not alone with my problem. Therefore I hope that as many of us as possible will win the fight against our demons. And I am sure that we both can make it to the 625 days mark and beyond - and I am really looking forward to it. I wish you all the best
One year later... So now I have come full circle and in my mind the moment when I decided to stop fapping does not feel to far away - and it was one of the best decisions I ever made. Definitely. There are so many advantages I experienced throughout this year: - I do not feel "urges" anymore (by that I mean that I do not want to compensate my problems with PMO) - I objectify women less - unfortunately it is still impossible to ignore certain aspects of the female anatomy, but this got a lot better than it used to be and I mostly blame the media, ads and biology/instinct ;-) - I am able to talk to women and chat with them in a fun and sympathetic way (most of these experiences happened to me within the last couple of weeks - and I noticed that I am not nervous anymore. At all.) - I am more satisfied with myself in general (I still work out approximately 3 times a week - that might be a reason for a lot of the positive effects as well) - overall confidence is at an all time high - I am more laid back when I think about life and its obstacles - I grew way more patient But there are also negative things or things that I could still improve: - in my opinion I am still procrastinating too much - still no girlfriend - my major goal for 2018 is to find a nice girlfriend - many positive effects which resulted from the PMO abstinence became "normal" - my social life could be better (I have only a few good friends - apart from them I mostly think people are stupid, but since I seem to be part of a minority when it comes to certain views on important aspects of life, I think that maybe I am the idiot and everybody else is "normal") - there are a lot of decisions to make which would have a major impact on my life. And until now I have postponed them - in a couple of weeks I turn 37 but I still feel as if I do not know what my purpose in life is or where I would like to end up So for 2018 I will try to reach 625 PMO free days - and after that I will consider myself healed so that I can move on with my life and focus on all the other stuff. I wish you all the best for 2018 and beyond. I hope you are alright and you will keep up the fight because what we do is very important. Good luck and thx for reading my two cents