I fap because I'm lonely and bored. Should I punish myself for fapping? I don't think so. Unless I do it too often. I think its just natural if you can't get normal sex... The problem is I cheat girls online to have a chat with them and make them send me nudes in very very tricky way posting picture of another guy.... umm I've no idea how to cope with lack of women I need to fullfill myself somewhere and talk to women.... I do it online and it's just tricking them. I shouldn't do it but sometimes I just feel very bored and lonely and nothing helps me I just lay on the floor staring at the ceiling and doing nothing.
So what do you want? No, really - what do you want? Is what you are doing the best way to go about getting it?
Time to get off the computer and start living real life. Don't just lay on the floor staring at the ceiling and doing nothing, go ENJOY REALITY.
Easy said. Umm what do I want? I want to feel good. Or.... not to feel bad. Umm.. I dont want to punish myself everytime I fap because thats what I've become. I know thats impossible not to fap If you dont have other things to do because they're boring to you. Umm I think I need to get some experience with nofap to make other things more pleasurable. Because for now Im just fucking bored of other things. I just have no fucking clue what other things I could do because everything seems fucking boring. And the circle goes by.. I would ike to have a woman to go out...that would be cure for myself. But Ive no clue how to get it because I dont feel like Im very interesting man sitting whole day by the pc. And the cirlce goes by..
I've been lonely my entire life. I don't get bored because I have an active life. I don't fap anymore, I turn that energy into exercise and academics. Embrace the pain. Use it. Let it surge through you. It forces you to take action. Don't run away from it.
A common misconception. I thought that way until I got a girlfriend and discovered porn was still a challenge for me. Hundreds of people on this forum have discovered the same. Because the weird thing is, porn is not the problem. Porn feeds into it, certainly, but it is mostly a symptom of something else much deeper going on. What drives you to porn? What purpose does porn serve you? Why does that need exist?
I suspect a successful reboot will redefine your outlook and priorities. For me, nofap served to make me see women in a new light and work up the courage to start talking to them. If you have no other outlet for sexual release you will find yourself trying to interact with actual women but your intentions will also become more pure. The lack of sexual stimuli will not make you desperate, but rather enhance your mindset and prompt a change in behavior that will eventually lead to fulfillment. At least that's been my experience.
Sometimes is not easy to replace the pleasure you get from masturbation, but when you try to recover try many hobbies and choose one or two, or maybe just find something academic that gives you fun or exercises, maybe you can play video games with a friend. The key idea is to replace that thing that gives you pleasure for another healthy one. Even if you fail as I did many times, but with practice you learn how to dominate yourself.
You don't need sex man...you crave it. Quit thinking about sex and it will all pass. sex is for reproduction.
Everywhere, Go outside, greet unknown people, smile at them(especially the girls). Go to the mall, gym, swimmingpool or any public place. Go alone, its okay. If you stay home, how will you make real friends? Interact with people even if you don't know them. They wont bite, I promise. Drag yourself from the virtual world and get to the reality. There was a time where we would go outside not knowing what we could expect. We would bump on some adventure or meet some crazy and fun people. It sounds scary but practice makes perfect. Talk and communicate with your neighbours, who knows there might be someone you will like and become friends with? Just put the effort in doing.
Walk to the skateshop and buy a skateboard. Then ride to the skatepark and learn some new tricks. Or if you live in a cold area buy some ski's or go to the surfshop and buy a surfboard. Get involved in some type of physical activity. Laying around fapping all day is bad for your health. Mental health and physical. Don't be sucked into the matrix your whole life.
Your the only cure for yourself if you keep on thinking women will help you love yourself more than you will continue to suffer
Pmo keeps you detached you can't heal it until you feel and that's were self discovery comes from and on an 8 month streak I'm slowly loving myself more each and everyday I use to think somehow a girl or something would rescue me from my own misery but I was the reason for my own misery
Of course it's great to go outside in nature and get fresh air you have been brainwashed to think being alone or in solitude is a bad thing