To the girls out here. And girlfriends that speak.

Because I know there are some girls on this site. Or guys with girlfriends who has said anything about this.

Do you girls truly notice when a guy is off PMO? like if you go to the gym, site beside in the buss, standing in queue or whatever.
Do you actually sense or notice if a guys doesn't fap to porn or is it just general talk from people who think or believe that it is this way because doing some research and asking some of my girl friends they say completely different things and the one doesn't necessarily agree with the other.

So is it true that you notice something or is it just random speculations among guys?

I do for sure notice improvements when I stay off PMO but do girls notice it?

 

Wow, ok. Thats a pretty strong answer. I didn't believe they actually notice but maybe they do. almost 3 days in and I noticed a difference in the girls at the gym today. I dont know if its just me or if it in fact is because of NoFap.
I know its none of my business but you dont have sex because she notice it or because you just choose not to?

 

Yea, I notice the same thing in girls aswell.
Nah by all means, if thats what both of you have come to agree with then you're free to do whatever you want.
I can imagine it must be pretty tough tho to be together but no sex. And the fact that she is still a virgin is very impressive. You dont come around those types of women very often these days.

Yes, I can tell you from my experience since i'm not a virgin that you will be blown away by real sex compared to online stimulation. ESPECIALLY since you save your virginity to after you've quit porn.

My first sexual encounter I was drowning myself with porn and for obvious reasons that didn't work out very well.
I didn't find this forum or noticed something was wrong until after unsuccessful sex with a third woman. That was 1.5 years ago.

 

It happened to me this year multiple times that my girlfriend was definitvely "hot" for me when I was on NoFap for at least 6 days. Last time, I even was not thinking of sex at all, but suddenly she was a little bit "sultry" and showed me her clear interest in me ... So this led to a "relapse" then ....

I think it's because after 3 days I clearly feel the energy in my lower belly, and I develop a certain kind of laid-back relaxed attitude.

I have always found that women are very similar to cats. When you chase them, they run away. But if you are relaxed and laid back, then they feel comfortable, so they will come to you and will begin to purr ;-)

 

I'm not really sure if I got your message. What exactly do you mean?

 

Which part do you not understand?
I will try to explain again.
(English is not my mother tongue)

 

I had problems understanding it because I don't understand how its connected with girls noticing if you're PMOing or not.
Did your girl show interest because you went 6 days PMO free?
Repalsed as in PMO or having sex with her? I just didn't understand the whole part.

Maybe its just me struggling on my own and being sick at the moment. Brain malfunctioning.

 

OK, I understand.
Well, the girls do not directly notice if you PMO or not.
But they notice if you are either nervous and stressed, or if you are relaxed and strong.
So the girls can notice if you are "weak" or "strong", and indirectly, they feel if you PMO or not.

When I PMO'd in the past, then I often felt weak, and I was nervous, snappy, angry, etc. .
However, when I do not masturbate for some days, then I'm feeling very confident, and I'm very relaxed.

So this is what Girls feel. And you know, they they are looking for "a shoulder to lean on". Which means they are looking for a man, who simply is strong, relaxed and confident. Who keeps being relaxed even when the girl is snappy and frantic and all that.

They also notice how you react to their approaches. They are "testing" your reactions. And the more you are rooted in yourself, the more attractive you are.

Finally, look out into the streets:
There are people who are getting mad over the most ridiculous things. Of who freak out in scary situations like being "chased" in the car. These are the "PMO"ers.

But then, there are also guys who will be under control even in extreme situations. Think of pilot "Sully" who landed the broken airplane in the hudson river. I'm pretty sure he does not PMO.

 

Great answer man!
Ok, well I have a tendency of keeping calm in stressful situations and that has got nothing to do with PMO or not. Thats just the way I am by nature.
So I'm guessing its a little bit different for all of us.
You're actually the first one I hear that says "no, they dont" but thats good because that gives me different perspectives.

Would be nice to hear from a real life woman aswell to see what she thinks/ feels.

 

In fact, a girl does not think so much about if YOU are PMOing or not.
Or, have YOU ever thought if a girl has masturbated in the morning or not?

In fact, girls also think ABOUT THEMSELVES - pretty much like "Do I look good?" "is he attracted by me?", "Does he look after me? " ...

Most people are just worried about themselves and little problems.
This kind of interaction leads to many misunderstandings.
For example:

- a woman is worried about the color of her shoes, and thinks her boyfriend doesn't like her because of that.
- In fact, her boyfriend is completely indifferent about her shoes, but he thinks "oh god, I masturbated, and she knows"

==> I tell you, don't worry so much about what others might be thinking about you. Better become a confident man, and your worries will dissolve.

 

Yes, and it's very true, I swear! Listen to the words of a wise old man ;-)

 

No I... more or less took it for granted.
Yea that is true aswell. That is true by fact.

Haha, good one

Oh no, no worries will never be dissolved. There will always be worries, no matter what you do or have accomplished.

 

I think that one can be discussed...

 

Yea, I understand. And you've got a very clear point of view. But then I guess that women doesn't "notice" you more if you're off PMO compared to when you jack off every day. They only notice your insecurity.

The only thing that don't get clear to me is if you are a man or a woman. Since its not "manly" written and and you're speaking in another persons perspective. Singular, plural or whatever its called.

But over all its a very clear post.

 

OK, but at least your worries will be of "higher quality" then.

Compare this:
- You are worried whether a a girl might think you are masturbating
- Bernie Ecclestone worries about quickly paying 100 Million Dollars such that he can continue the business he loves ASAP

;-)