Hey guys, have you found that addressing root causes of emotional pain has been helpful in avoiding PMO? I feel like my ability to make progress really made a big turn when I started dealing with stuff I had been avoiding. Stuff I didn’t want to acknowledge like childhood sexual abuse. I was married for 9 years before I even told my wife. But I got my first good stretch of sobriety right after that. Has anyone else had this experience?
Yes me too. Another part of this I found is once I started being honest with myself about what was going on. That was when I able to get a handle on things. This was what really has turned things around for me. I wasn't able to be truly honest with my wife until I was truly honest with myself.
Although it’s not directly related to sexual acting out, I’ve been enjoying the book “The Origins of You” by Vienna Pharaon. It really speaks to me. I get a lot of insight on why I do things or react the way I do even if I don’t want to.
