Questions about symptoms.. Hi guys..i have a question about symptoms in reboot.. i have been going from ane circle to another but with the same symptoms which are going one into another..i mean when i realized that my fantasies is giving me only bad things for my brain i stoped do it that.. and my brain began reebot ..first i felt very low dopamine, like everything good in my life is gone,then was i dont how to say it in English the condition when my bfain want it very much,and then was problems with insomnia 2-3 days and then like deadline ..and that things were connected with very changeable mood, that was a lot of fine mood...That circle was like 1-1,5 week was going on. And than was only that Condition when my brain want it a lot..randomly coming..but i have that circles never ending..do y have the same thing? Should i do something , or its JUST need a time,a lot of time.. Now Very important for me information,and i don't know should i do something with that. I made an experiment, i dont look at girls for some 2-3 days (that was very very hard) and one morning i accidentally saw a wooman, she was in short dress and o my God, at second time in my life i felt it in my brain,i just felt things what i knew i must feel but never felt..it was just amazing..i knew that this will gone if i will start looking at girls normally again.. So i want to ask y guys,who already won this reboot..Is this everything is time question,or should i in my situation dont look on girls for like a month and hope for the best?? P.s believe me i made everything, i think that, everything for this reboot..
So if I understand you correctly you are starting your reboot over? You said before that you hadnt watched P or masturbated for a long time. It was prostitution you struggled with. What are you struggling with exactly?
Why are y saying that my reboot is going to an end? Im struggling with that,that my brain everytime everyday every minute is watching on real girls and woman but absolutely nothing feeling he is just dead to them..and i dont understand why,becouse i dont watching that fu### porn and dont masturbating, and dont visiting prostitutes anymore..
I am not saying your reboot is ending. I'm trying to understand what you are saying. You said you removed P years ago seem to still be struggling with daily issues. To me that doesn't sound like my experience at least. I'm feeling much better today than I was. It might be good to find someone who speaks your primary language to help. Because for me at least it's very hard to understand what you are saying. If you haven't watched any P, haven't MOed, and have not seen any prostitutes maybe it is going to just take more time. But it seems like there's something I'm not quite understanding. It might be really good to go to a therapist who speaks your 1st language and talk about all these things they will be much more equipped to help you. Good luck man. You can get there.
I quit porn for like 2 years ago,masturbating 0,5 year and not visiting prostitutes for like 4 moth.. I thing that porn and masturbating i left was transformed into visiting prostitutes..i really felt that and explained it for myself in that way.. Really it was a little bit hard to go away from porn, but i really left masturbating really easy..seems like i hadnt addiction waith that at all..Now when i left prostitutes i realized that i have very hard addiction, i really want that..but not sex,just like porn watch and touch..I realize that the real reboot is going now from my last visiting prostitute,and i need more then 0,5 year to end that shit.. I feel myself better..i feel myself very confident i feel myself like alpha..but i just cant feel real woman and its killing me..i just cant start dating just dating, without sex..just can't if im not feeling girl.. I will make it ... i just need more time.. 2 years i just prepare ,just pick information about all this ### and i really tired..
Im not tired becouse of not feeling nothing to real girls,im tired becouse of mood changing and hormones.. Everybody is writing about morning wood..that they have MW evenight and morning..and talk about that if y have it for along time its mean that y reboot will end soon..but i had it too..for like 3 weeks every night and morning..but then it disappeared and i had insomnia and bad mood..and then that circle is going again..and again... Never mind... Thanks for support)prishiated
Im not tired becouse of not feeling nothing to real girls,im tired becouse of mood changing and hormones.. Everybody is writing about morning wood..that they have MW evenight and morning..and talk about that if y have it for along time its mean that y reboot will end soon..but i had it too..for like 3 weeks every night and morning..but then it disappeared and i had insomnia and bad mood..and then that circle is going again..and again... Never mind... Thanks for support)prishiated
I'm not finding that people think their"reboot" is almost over because of any symptoms... If anything I'm hearing guys say that this is something they deal with even years later. Just not as often or as strongly. Your profile says your 29. If you started PMO as a teen like most seem to that's a long time to condition yourself mentally. It can take a long time to even things out. What I'm finding is I had to do a lot of soul searching to decide what I think is right. My actions end thoughts for example. I had to realize that even though my sexual desires are driven by a natural human instinct that I was going about it the wrong way. If your single I don't think there's anything wrong with finding a woman attractive that you pass on the street. But don't let it consume your mind for hours. Just let it pass, until you can calibrate feelings like that I think you will struggle with the same loops.
This is an example of something that I am talking about. Yes, actually you can start dating without sex or touching a woman. It's these mindsets that I've had to change to really be at peace with myself. I'm sure you know that you actually could take a girl out on a date and not have sex with her and be perfectly fine. If you can't changing that mindset is a good place to start. Once I started changing my beliefs on things like this my natural feelings became easier to manage. I was able to give my wife a massage without feeling like I HAD to have sex with her that instant.
Very good advice..about not consuming and simple look on girl. I get it. I mean i get the difference...i will work with that.. About dating.. I know i can get girl on date and be very nice..its just a little bit difficult.. I afraid of the sex time..i mean i know that real girls dont interesting to me(my brain) and thats why I don't want go on date and have a relationship, just becouse dont want to fall down in her eyes like a man.. physically ..
It's only difficult if you make it that way. Remove the obsession, understand there's more to a woman than just sex and looks. There's a human and a brain behind all the outward appearances. I'd suggest dating this way. Be friends with women, don't just jump into bed with them. I know women often initiate sex but you still can make a choice if it's something you want to do or not. I think it might do you good to take a big pause on all sexuality, it's hard I know, but you seem to really need a full detox of everything. To me it seems if you would abstain and work through your mental processes things will get better in time.
Y must know that that what are y talking about thats all for normal brain not adiccted brain..while human brain is "on porn" y can all night talking about that ,that there are love and happiness and sex is not important ..Its tru its really tru,but with illnesse brain y cant acknowledged that.. But a few ours ago , becouse of your advice that looking at girls its ok, but not give yor brain possibility to consume y mind on them..Whole day i analyzed that,and my yesterday and whole week..and i just got it..thats was my last stimulation..i mean i looked on girls everytime i see them,but its ok if y just looking at them for like 1,2 seconds..but i realized ,after i was coming back and continued doing my stuff i realized that i want to look again and stayed looking longer (like porn)..and i got it that here is the difference beetween normal and psycho behavior..i just feel,literally feel that that was my lust stone on my road..and y know like with other stones like fantasy,masturbation i stopped do it straightaway...i mean when i realized what exactly masturbation had done with me i quit it straightaway..and here is again, but with this psyco looking on girls..when i realized that its not bormal i stoped without any problems.. P.s. looking on girls had gave my brain a looot of dopamines..like visiting prostitutes ...so now i just need a time..while my brain finally will rest. Thank y very much..I always analyzing my life my thoughts, every time asking questions myself, analyzing people ,what they talk,how they talk, their's emotions, sound, voices and now i was analyzed yor advice..and it was the last stone ,i really feel this. Thanks.
Yes I definitely get that. It's hard. I found it's not something you can hear from someone else and have it just fix things. It helps to hear success stories. And hear others perspectives. But I found for me I had to come to the realization myself on my own taking small parts of advice from all sorts of people and come up my own conclusions. It took a lot of soul searching and thinking just like you are doing right now. Keep working through things, eventually I think you might come to that point where things come together and give you a level of peace. Where all your views, morals, desires align. It's a great feeling. But one that we all have to find on our own. Once you get to that point it takes repetition telling yourself over and over what your new mindset is. Eventually it becomes easier to handle I promise.
