There is too much sexual looseness going on in general and it’s infuriating me. Let’s start with sexual encounters with even your wife, for instance. It should be missionary only, for the most part. Stop doing sexual things which are more exciting aka sexually flagrant or loose. It will get you too excited and eventually you will return to bad habits. I’m ready to be and am in fact, and have been for the past year, very sexually severe, repressed, conservative, and pure, and I am excited and proud to be on this path. Let’s not forget if it’s in your mind your body wants to find ways to act on it. So let’s get all this crap out of our minds. Let’s stop lusting after a persons body. You only have one life to live so you better not live for the moment it’s embarrassing and cringe. If you ever have the urge to feel that way go for a walk in the woods and let nature cleanse out your mind. You will find that you suddenly feel far more noble, pure, alive, free and one with nature.
This^. I made a post not too long ago, venting my anger about social ills and P sites. People steered me in the right direction. We cannot change society (yet) but we can change ourselves and our habits. Let's do this together with recovery from PMO
I think I get what you’re trying to say and to some point I agree with it. There’s been a pornification of the brain where we lust/objectify people in our everyday life, but think it’s permissible or healthy simply because we’re not looking at a screen. Another example would be referring to a spouse or partner as an “outlet”, which I’ve always found to be pretty dehumanizing type of language.
Yes I am not really angry about it but felt like going on a bit of a tirade, a rant. It bolstered me up. But as you all mentioned it’s better to ignore all keep the head down and keep going in the direction of our choosing. Distractions are the worst.
to clarify, Im not saying I do or dont agree with any of the social opinions in this thread. Im saying it doesnt matter for recovery - it's a distraction. People have helped me with that, too. spreading that help.
The main thing is I'm not sure about is the way Pennsylvanian talks about sex. Seems like he's saying the only sex anyone should have is missionary and every other sex is triggering. That might be the case for him, but we're all different. Having different types of sex may not be triggering for other people. I also don't think lust is wrong to a certain extent. It depends on what he means by lust, but sexual desire is natural. I agree with you that we can't change other people, but you can change how you react to things. I have commented in other threads on how I'm not in favour of controlling the way women dress, or their sex lives, and I haven't changed my mind on that issue. But my main issue is what was said about sex in this thread.
I think were mostly in agreement here. but once again, I think its off-topic: the focus here is on abstaining from PMO. I think its too easy to get into debates about other stuff here. so I agree with mentorr's post. OP may be triggering, but oh man is it low on the scale compared to ultra-descriptive stuff people post on here.
