Hi, im 20 yold and im on relationship for a mouth… and she want to have Sex, but i dont know if im ready, i mean my last relationship over because i did not get an errection while she wants, and know im at Day 6 without porn.. Advices pls.. Sory for my english im from
Erection or not, I'm seriously starting to question the sexual habits of modern couples. Is it really in the best interest of everyone to hop into bed with each other so quickly? Without commitment? Risking unwanted pregnancy and STDs? A long time ago, people only had sex when they were married. There wasn't much better option. Neither birth control nor protection were accessible. So it made sense. But with all the mess I see with people and their sexual activities, I think everyone should strongly consider going back to the old fashioned ways.
What's your history with Porn? What's your story? I highly suggest holding off on sex with your new gf. If she leaves don't worry you are very young. Things often happen for a reason. If you feel you have noticed an issue with P in your life start expressing it.
I recommend you to consider holding off.on relationships until you are well into recovery. Get yourself healthy first, focus on getting your life together, then go looking for someone to share that life with. I am pro-"sex before marriage" because then people are more likely to have an accurate idea of what their intimate relationship might look like after commiting, but I do think that a month is a very short period of time to know someone before sleeping together. If I could go back, I would not have waited for marriage, but if you can't have a frank conversation with the person about sexual health and your nervousness and fears about maintaining an erection for it, y'all are probably not close enough emotionally to be having sex.
Regardless of others judgments about when is the right time to have sex, I will say that if you are still using porn, your experience will likely be affected. Your first priority needs to be stopping pornography. What is most important to you in this situation?
At 20, a lot of our worries come from overthinking. The key is to be relaxed; sometimes, even getting a bit tipsy might help, though always ensure you both are comfortable and have set boundaries. I faced a similar situation when I was 45. Doctors said I was completely fine. My wife and I thought it might be an emotional disconnect or something deeper in our relationship, so we gave online couples counseling a shot. Our therapist really helped us understand the underlying issues and work through them together. It brought a huge positive change in our intimacy. Just remember, take things at your pace and communicate with your partner. Good luck!
You might want to consider medication for erectile dysfunction. If you and your girlfriend break, you may be tempted to use porn to make yourself feel better. Medication might provide a short term solution and hopefully your erections will improve after you've avoided porn for a long time.
