Finally at 28 was with a woman. She touched me yesterday morning, and we slept together twice in the afternoon and again today. Very excited and in love with her. Told me she loved me right before we did it. She’s so great. However I couldn’t get fully erect that morning so I took the Via gra prescription I had from HIMS. That worked fine. But today I guess I timed it wrong or maybe I’m just dry because of doing it 3 times yesterday.I could not finish tonight after like 10 minutes I’ve got a doctors appt Friday to run my test numbers and maybe get a recommendation on ED meds. Also I’m about a month free of internet P. I have mo to thoughts and pictures of her but considering she’s my gf, that doesn’t matter.
It's possible that it could matter because it's still responding to something other than a real human being who's there with you. It's artificial regardless of who's in the pic. Yes, your gf is a real human being, but this is a trap that many fall into when trying to get in recovery. It can make your recovery efforts more difficult and drawn out, and it can keep an addiction alive. It's almost like a loophole to the addiction.
I will agree with the comment above regarding pictures and videos. Your brain doesn't care if the pictures are of your girlfriend, a Hollywood star or yourself. If it's artificial and it's giving you that rush most likely is better to stay away from it.. Also Sex during recovery is a challenging thing. I personally found myself struggling several times after having intimate moments with my wife. The chaser effect after sex can be real, you may not experience it but be aware it could happen.
Interesting take. I’ll just stick to sex and intimacy with her until my 90 days and maybe further than that. I dont want to have to use pills but if that’s what it takes I’ll go for it.
I definitely have that in the back of my mind. It’s weird that I couldn’t finish last night but makes sense since I did it 3x with her sunday
Yeah also don't worry too much about O, you are there for the adventure not just the end of the adventure. If there is one thing that porn teaches us is to objectify woman and sex and it can be very easy to forget about connecting! Make sure you are present in the moment with your partner!
That’s a good take!!!! I made her finish twice during sex which I’m told doesn’t happen super often so I’m pretty proud of that!!!!
You're doing the right thing. Hopefully your pills will get you up to speed forming new connections to sexual arousal with a physical woman rather than your hand and a screen. Might take some time but perservere with it. Use the pills as long as you have to and then try and taper off.
Update. Got my first handy without medicine. Had to take meds for actual sex tho and took forever and the condom breaking to finish. Any thoughts as to why it’s taking so long?
This is why it's best to recover first and then start having sex, combining the two is messy and complicates matters. You are 28, I imagine you've masturbated and watched a lot of porn in your life, that's going to take a considerable amount of time to reverse.
Yeah it’s too late for that. I’m almost to two months workout porn. I figured that. That’s probably part of the ED problem.
Had sex again! Took pill a And within 30 minutes had sex, finished in like 5 min and felt solid the whole time. She was sleepy but was happy to be there with me.
Had sex twice today. Could not keep it up all the way in the pool and couldn’t finish. Took a pill got out a bit later and had zero issue. Really love her! she’s so kind and understanding with things like that. Still a frustrating girl but hey… they’re all like that. I rarely get the want to watch p any more. Haven’t watched since I met her like almost 2 months ago. Rapidly approaching my best record. After the 90 days I’m done even trying to track it. Still have ED but I’m really not sure if it’s PIED. Pills work fine and I can afford it so why not?? Hope this helps someone else out there
