Exactly!!!! Having meaningful sex with your wife will change your neural patterns and arousal to be about her, not porn. Just make sure you don't fantasize about others! Stay with her mentally and focus on her.
QUOTE "Is it ok to have sex with my girlfriend while rebooting ? If not, what is the impact sex can have on your rebooting/recovery” Hi, great question and one I was thinking about myself as I plan to reboot but have a healthy relationship with my GF of 27 (I am 41). We have sex about 1-2 times per week and a “hard” reboot would interfere with this. However, I remember with my previous girlfriend (years ago) practising sex without experiencing my orgasm, as I was following the philosophy of TAO and was saving my strength in this way. I think if I do a hard reboot I might take this approach and have occasional sex without any ejaculation or orgasm. Yes this does require a level of control that some might find difficult but actually you can get a lot of pleasure from sex without actually reaching orgasm. Also the woman in these cases will experience multiple orgasms as you just keep going so you won’t get many complaints from them.
I’m with you on this. I am married. And I want to reprogram my mind and body to desire my wife the absolute most, so my reboot is no PM, only O from my wife. This is important for us because it allows us to rebuild “normal” in a healthy way. Not saying our way is “THE WAY” but it’s what is best for us.