Feeling broken, dick sometimes doesn’t stay hard when having sex with gf

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by just for today, Jul 28, 2023.

  1. just for today

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    I hate my stupid dick. Sometimes I just want to chop it off.

    My gf knows about everything I’m going through. We have great communication on everything related to me getting over PMO. She’s a super supportive person and I love her immensely. I’m extremely lucky to have her going through all of this.

    I’m 15 days sober. It feels great everywhere except the bedroom and intermittently when I have urges throughout the day. I haven’t cummed in like two days I think. Yet I can’t stop thinking about whacking off to basically anything. What the fuck. And then to add to it when I can’t finish she gets super self conscious and it just feels awful all around.

    I don’t know what to do fellas. I’m concerned I have ED or something. I’m 24 years old. I don’t think I have it but I’m all freaked out. Something comes over me in the bedroom and I’m just suddenly not in the mood anymore. Just want to go to old habits to escape it. But fuck that. I want to approach everything differently.
     
  2. ANewFocus

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    It can take 90 days or more before ED from PMO subsides. It will require drastically reducing the amount of porn usage over long term.

    It isn’t your member that is the issue. It’s the affect of porn on your brain and then the signals that your brain sends to your member.
     
  3. just for today

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    Yeah I get that, just needed to vent for a moment. I know it’s not my dick that’s wrong necessarily.

    We had sex a couple hours later and everything was fine. Guess there’s just flukes here and there.
     
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  4. Real Jerry Seinfeld

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    The first time you're trying to shake porn, it is really rough. Like you're climbing the walls wanting to masturbate all day. You just gotta tough it out mate. Don't assume you've got ED until you're 180 days+ clean. If after six months you're still pushing rope, then maybe look into what's going on. The chances are things will improve once you cut out the scud.
     
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  5. just for today

    just for today Fapstronaut

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    Thank you for the words friend. Things are all good, there’s just these sad moments intermittently in our relationship. It sucks but I know it won’t last forever.

    What does scud mean?
     
  6. Real Jerry Seinfeld

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    Scud is a Scottish word, it means 'spank' or 'nude' but also 'porn'. So you could like scud it in the scud to scud. Except don't, stay off the scud.
     
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  7. just for today

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    Haha alright, thank you Jerry :)
     
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