I was so addicted to porn and masturbate to that once every day after a long day of work. I've been with my girlfriend for 4 years and we used to have sex all the time up to 5 times a day in the beginning. I had no problem with erectile dysfunction then because she turned me on. But after the porn and masturbation, I couldnt get hard for longer than 2 minutes. This is real shameful and I want to have that attraction again.
Sure there is. The relationship just will change over time and many people don't have as much sex later on as they have during the first couple of years. I've been over 20 years with my wife and after starting nofap sex with her has become much more interesting again. P will eventually numb your brain and death grip will numb your penis making regular sex life boring. That's why I'm now doing nofap.
Yep I've definently prefered porn over a real life partner. You can tell because you think about porn while you are doing her and you usually can't finish. It's terrible. Sex becomes a chore.
Sadly I have to say that this is exactly what happened to me. I prefer jerking off to seks with my wife. It has part to do with the fact that she isn't really that into seks. She can easily go a month without it. And we have seks it's the plain stuff. But I absolutly don't put the blame on her! Porn has completly changed the way I want my women to look and to be in bed. And that isn't a realistic view. I'm hoping by not looking at porn anymore that this will change. Fact is that before I had my first intercourse I already had looked at porn so my view of seks and women was probably already a little misked up. Thing is in my early 20's before I met my wife I had a relationship with a very sweet girl. I can't say anything bad about her. And in the beddepartement she was like a pornstar. So I had it at one punt put I somehow realised that she wasn't the women for me. So I have already experienced that the pornstarsexthing isn't the most important in a relationship and still I keep wanting it. Hope I kinda make sense Edit: just read the can't finish remark from thanatos. That's something I experinced a lot with my wife. I just fake it.
The explanation is very simple: you get jaded. Breasts and vaginas NEVER lose their appeal, but you get used to it the older you get. I daresay, some men probably get bored of it they get so much. Anyway, in answer to your question about the wife/girlfriend...it's the same reason why a man doesn't masturbate his whole life to the same playboy centerfold. His brain seeks new stimulation, and the same body he's been seeing for months/years/decades simply cannot stimulate the same way an endless stream of willing, nubile females can.
My last girlfriend, who was lovely and enjoyed sex VERY much, I found myself sexually bored before too long into the relationship. Maybe this was an issue of me being "kinkier" than her, but that might also be from my long exposure to "kinky" things that supercharged a desire for it. Nevertheless, I found myself unpleased with a partner who did not like touching or tasting semen. The few times we tried to watch porn together to spice up our sex life did not end well as she became very self conscious. Eventually I found myself far more interested in alcohol and pornography alone than actual sex with someone who loved me. Needless to say, the relationship was eventually destroyed.
Yeah, i went for 6 years in a relationship and didn't have sex, subbing with alcohol and masturbation. Not always porn but definitely phases of it where I felt compelled to use, even minutes after ejaculation I'd want to do it again. I really think the alcohol/porn combo killed my last relationship as well, and I've been in a severe depression for a year now, and it's not because of the lost girlfriend. That was hurtful, but it was even worse hurting her and I was making her unhappy, and i never wanted to do that. I've simply been in no place emotionally for over a year to date anyway, although sexually I work fine.
The problem is not the sex it's the connection. Intimacy and connection is what makes sex interesting, fun and not boring. If all sex is to you is positions and gymnastics then yes it will become boring. The connection is what keeps with the same partner exciting and fun. Porn messes with tour brain and makes it very difficult for you to form that emotional connection with a woman. This is why sex becomes "boring". When you jack off to a screen then you become bonded to the screen. The screen has endless variety but not emotional connection. Emotional connection is the true spice of sex.
On a primal level, we humans have an insatiable desire to pass on our genes. That's why sex is so pleasurable. Perhaps porn is a safe way to keep those desires in check, but I'd wager that a lot of people settle for relationships that ultimately turn out to be incompatible, and therefore one (or both) partners starts to seek stimulation from elsewhere once it becomes apparent that they are in an unsatisfying relationship.
