something I've noticed, especially in the past few years, is women are way more walled-up and on guard. Obviously not talking about drunk at the club or whatever, just in regular daily life. Like even friendly conversation in super casual scenarios is given this really weird vibe now...does anyone know what I'm talking about? I wonder if it's b/c they know men everyone are consuming a shitload of PMO and most cant even look at them above the neck anymore.
Some women think porn is overrated, and that most men don't watch it. If they're worried about anything, it's crime, not porn. Anyway, I think it depends on where you live and the personality of the woman. I expect in cities, women are less willing to talk than women in small towns and villages, since there's more crime in cities. Also, if a woman is introverted, she wouldn't want to talk to anyone, including other women. Some people just hate small talk. Another thing is in this forum we're from different countries, so we're in different cultures. In my country, most people don't go up to someone and talk to them. People in my country tend to be quite private, and it's considered an invasion of privacy to talk to someone you don't know.
half of this is just cultural sensationalism with the news/criminal minds/etc. Crime declined every year from 1990 to ~2016, but polls found that people thought it was *increasing* every year. Meanwhile people eat all kinds of sugar, oil, meat, etc., which is 100x more likely to kill you than being kidnapped/murdered.
I wish it were that convenient, but I think the explanation is a lot simpler than that. I think that most of these women simply don't find the men around them attractive, and their walled off attitude is an attempt to signal their complete lack of interest. It's fine by me though; while I don't pursue relationships anymore, it helps to know ahead of time who isn't interested. Why waste my time with people who are just going to stonewall me?
Sorry to say, but if you think women are more on guard, it's you. They are not more on guard, but if you are giving them an uncomfortable vibe they will be on guard. Maybe change your approach, smile more, be casual, I really don't know why they are on guard with you, but it's not a trend and it's something you can easily fix. Good luck.
I think this post and onceakings is correct. and it's not just women, it's men too. There's a lot of fear mongering here in the US and rates of violence against women I think are getting worse in recent years. PMO addiction plays a significant factor in that - as much as addicts and the industry likes to deny it. P has normalized acts of aggression and harm towards women to a sickening degree. and I think it's making them more afraid generally. It makes me sad. To clarify, I'm not talking at all about my 1:1 interactions with women. I see it across the board generally. It's a cultural shift, IMHO.
