Unable to have sex with new sexual partners but able to have sex with current. Help and advice.

Quick background of myself.

Watched porn and masturbated since i was like 12 and developed PIED as a result. First noticed having sexual problems at 22/23 and after researching for hours came acroos nofap and YBOP. Long story short been rebooting for the past 3 years now. Havent watched porn in 3 years and have no urges to watch it either. Ive been rebooting with a girl i have casual sex with and it has been very difficult in the beginning stages as ive had experienced the typical symptoms such as ED, prem ejaculation, flatline, weak erections ect. This has happened for the first 1-2 years of sleeping together and on the 3rd year my symptoms started to improve. I could have sex for longer, no flatline, ED happened less common and as the months kept ticking by, the improvements only got better and better to where i was having sex for atleast 30 mins each time, didnt lose my erections, they were like 80 solid. So i thought okay things are going well and i must be coming to the end of my rebooting.

Boy how wrong could i be...
So i met someone new that just wanted a bit of fun uno casual sex. Tried to do the deed. My dick got hard at the start then it slowly started losing the erection and until i was soft. We tried a lot of foreplay and still no response.

My question is. How was i able to have sex with my previous partner for months with barely any issues and as soon as i tried to have sex with someone new, all the sexual problems came back again.

Extra bits.
Im able to masturbate willingly to thoughts.

During the early stages of reboot although i stopped watchint porn. I went through a period of browsing girls photos on social media, sexting girls, checking out profiles ect. Until i came across an article that this is bad as its still enhancing the porn pathways. So ive cut this out for about over a year now. Now when i unexpectedly come across girls profiles with some photos showing too much skin i immediately ignore/ swipe away than indulging in. Sexting ive completely stoppped. In summary i have no urges for any porn or online sexual artificial activity.

Thanks for reading.

 

I do desire my first partner more, perhaps i was less attracted to the new partner.

Nervous a bit, yes. As a result of all those sexual problems.

Yes because weve been having sex throughout the 3 years, during the good and the bad moments.

Safer yes cos weve talked about my issue and she understands.

I dont think so. Maybe pleasurable ritual, since all weve been doing is having sex. Not sure.

Weve been having sex every week or 2 since the start of the year. Maybe like a month or 2 when we didnt have sex.

Since ive become more incontrol of my erections and been having longer sex. I assume I can now have regular normal sex with different partners.

Thanks for taking the time to reply to me!

 

But if im associating her with arousal isnt that normal? Cos its natural rather than artificial on screen stimulation

 

I hear you but if your theory is correct. How do i reprogram it to all girls?

 

I see. Have you recovered and fully rebooted?

 

Oh I see. I've been without porn for 3 years now and it's only been the start of this year where I've been having more improved sex. The symptoms are still there I can tell. Do you have a rough idea how long it'll take to recover from ED?

 

Honestly no idea man. Could be anything at this point. I dont masturbate frequent, couldnt tell you the last time I did it and if I did, it would always be to memory and not porn.