Starting to date advice needed

Hey Sir. Fappanot, you have a awesome name btw. Here are some videos if I may I point out to you what gave me confidence:


This one is an absolute must watch, it's entitled "How to lose your virginity and have more sex": While it might sound pretty aweful, it's actually quite enlightening. In the video the guy starts off by condemning PUA/manipulation/ego/acting uncongruent with women, and then he begins to talk about the value of being 100% congruent/transparent/vulnerable and how it is the secret to true confidence and projecting the lively, true you that you cannot project by trying to be perfect. Then he talks about the value of finding things you like (passions?) and going for it, rather than live only to impress girls.
You just gotta watch it, I don't think I summed it up well. Oh, it also talks about the steps in losing your virginity, or rather a healthy and unintimidating way to look at it.


This ones really long, but if you're willing to watch it, I would recommend it, it's called "How to attract girls"
"So how to attract hot girls? Treat everyone equally. The golden rule. Kind of funny how all religions / spiritual practices talk about this. People have a natural tendency to judge other people. And the more we judge, the more we see people for what "value" they have or what they can offer us. Hence- we start judging ourselves more because we subconsciously see ourselves as a value we can offer others. And then we subconsciously always want to "prove" ourselves to people we see as high value. (A hot girl, a famous person, popular person, rich person who could be a business partner, etc.)"


I recommend this one highly, it's short and it's entitled "How to know if a girl likes you":
It talks about how it shouldn't matter if a girl likes you or not, as that's the unmasculine thing to do, and why you might not ever be able to tell anyway.
and why not knowing should be a fun thing


This one is extremely short, but incredibly useful, it's entitled "How to get out of your head, especially around hot girls"
It talks about the value of being completely honest and just admitting that you don't know what to say or saying exactly what you want to say with girls.


I highly advise that you don't bother with a lot of the manipulative/trick a girl into bed stuff on reddit, as that stuff can really mess up a healthy mentality with girls. All these videos are made by the same guy. Cheers

 

I think your best bet to a healthy relationship is throw sex off the table. If you want to date, that is. If you want a FWB than text can be on the table. However if you want a healthy relationship with meaning, throw sex off the table. Than if you guys progress there, and that is what you want, than it will happen. While I personally have made the mistake of premarital sex, I don't condone it, but that doesn't mean it is right or wrong. But if you approach it with sex on your mind, you will fail at a healthy relationship.

 

Going into a relationship and instantly wondering about sex is a major red flag. Sex is about 10% of a relationship so make sure you actually want a relationship. Also sex is not a performance. Sex is about expressing love for someone and mutually enjoying pleasure.

 

It's a short life. Know that and your done.

 

I'm absolutely ecstatic that it helped! Keep us updated somewhere, i'd love to see how it's going for you!