She uses p too but i am addicted

Thats so hypocritical of her. Tell her that if its not okay for you, its not for her either. Porn in ANY form os harmful in my opinion.

 

When I told my wife, a week ago, that I have an addiction to porn; I had no intention of getting any support from her. This was for two reasons:

1. She is very controlling, even up to the point to where she is trying to tell me what to do with my job and career; I don't want her to be very controlling over this situation and I need to do this on my own with someone else that is willing to hold me accountable; even if that means reaching out to a couple of online friends and asking them to be my accountability partner.
   
2. I figured that it wouldn't be fair to load that burden to someone who is still going through some shock.

That said, and doing some retrospect, I question her reaction. When I told my wife about my addiction, she was more relieved that I was not a pedophile and that I was not having an affair (in spite of years of her accusing me of having one, but I could say that looking at pron is having an affair) than she was upset that I was consuming porn. When I went in to make my confession and to tell her the good news that I am beating this, I expected her to beat the tar out of me for doing or throw me out. Her not getting upset is a concern as it might have solidify (a little) my suspicion about her.

I remember that a few years ago, I found a sex toy of hers out in the open (yes, were the kids can see it) and there were times that I would walk in on her in what appears to be her masturbating and looking at porn. I've dismissed it back then because I had no room to talk.

Personally, if you're interested in my opinion: I say it's time to leave. It's not fair that you are trying to improve on yourself and breaking your addiction to pron if your partner isn't willing to do the same. Believe me, I get how unfair the relationship gets: my marriage is the same way in many different aspects other than porn addiction. If you can, try to address the issue directly and let her know that you're trying to beat your own addiction and at the same time that she isn't willing to give hers up. If she continues to consume pron and is unwilling to give it up, then get out of the relationship, if you can.