Sex while rebooting

It's very hard to know if having sex will trigger you to want more release and sex or it will be healthy. I've seen it go both ways.

 

hold out without sex as long as possible but if it’s an emergency and you are tempted to the max then sex can be your last resort and safe haven.

but generally in beginning of rebooting you want to go without sex to rewire

having sex still way better than pmo

 

When you say you're a sex addict, is that distinct from the porn use? I don't know what the guidance is for having sex whilst a recovering sex addict. It may be worth asking somewhere that specialises in sex addiction because my guess is they have their own protocols for dealing with a dual porn/sex addiction.

 

37 days is a huge accomplishment! I really took it only 1 day at a time, because 90 seemed like a lot. After 30 things got easier, then again after 60, but there was one day in the last 30 where I had crazy never had before thoughts, even suicidal, just the once, but your brain will do anything to get the hit again. (I reached out to a mentor, and they said that destructive thoughts can be common in recovery, so acknowledge them, and then move on.) So stick it out. Sex with partner was once/week throughout for us, and it became almost a sacred space, having it scheduled and being focused on each other. At first that seemed like really not enough, but my libido has settled down to wanting it 2x/week, and settling for once. Which seems to be where I am at, but the reset keeps getting better and desire to use P is wayyyyy down now! (For refererence, this is posted at 170 days incase counter is reset)

I can't say what you should do, but that life is better without P.

 

You forgot about, that that, i will say about myself,that having sex was similar like pmo. I don't know how but when i have sex with girl for me its 100% pmo. Same fillings. For me its like job,but not relaxing funtime. Its like i must do sex but my brain dont want it. Its like psychologicly i want sex very much,but fysically my brain dont want it..Its like my brain even dont aware - that the naked girl - is sexual pleasure.
I haven't had that kind of sex for like 13 months . Becouse i decided that i will just wait for natural instincts,when i will feel that i fysically will want have sex. Im 30,and i have never feel that feeling before, and had sex just becouse i liked girls very much, and want to feel pleasure but i can't felt. Dont feel things that i feel they must be in me. I feel that something what must be is just absent.
And im just believe that im one of that guys who need much more time to reboot.. I don't know why im writing you this,maybe its something what i just want to share with,but im not sharing with it with anybody.
So having sex not always better than pmo,in my situation sex is same pmo.So if you feel same feeling in sex and in pmo,you need stop do it for a long time..

 

bc you still ejaculate while having sex