Hello fellow fapstronauts - I am thirty days in, still ten days short of my initial goal of 40 days. My goal wasn't completely defined when I started. I just wanted to stop doing porn. Over time I set it as no doing porn at all. I don't mind masturbating, so long as it doesn't take more than a few minutes to get done and I don't do it very often, and I'm certainly pro-sex-with-my-wife. I just wanted to eliminate porn completely from the situation. Although it seems like it's gotten a little harder as time goes on, results have come in: this past weekend, after several years of ED, my wife and I had the best sex we've ever had! Twice within a 24-hour period. This is a MAJOR relief, and my wife is of course quite happy too. I can't quite believe it. I think my wife and I were both just resigned to having a defective sex life. I've kept the porn out, and I kept the masturbation to a minimum too (only three times during the first 30 days, and each was over and done with in under 5 minutes, and in one case in under 2 minutes). The porn urges come on, sometimes very strongly (more so if I am tired). But the thing is, if I can just hang on and breathe deeply, THE URGES GO AWAY. I have to admit that I didn't start this thing from a completely bad place. Years ago I used to spend 5 or 6 hours a day fapping to porn if I could. But even more recently, when being married and having a kid and a busy life cut down on time available for fapping, it still managed to erupt into every sliver of private time that became available, enough to cause ED and other serious consequences. (See here: http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?7325-5-days-and-counting) After I complete the 40 day goal on May 3 I suppose I'll hop onto the May train. I don't want to set a grand goal of 90 days or something even larger, I'm happy to just continually add another 30 day cycle to my goals and let my counter keep on running. So keep it up, people. It's hard for everybody, but rewards await you!
That's great to hear! I'm glad you've been able to keep fapping to a minimum as well. For me I find fapping releases too much dopamine and then it gets harder for a few days to resist PMO. If you can do 30 days, you know you can do 60!
Hi thanks for the great posts. I am so thankful that I found this forum it gives me hope here was me thinking it was just me. Anyway I work away a lot and this time I am away for 8 weeks. I am on day 17 of abstinence no P no M. It does look as if he is starting to shrivel a bit and I am getting rock hard erections in the morning and sometimes during the day to day I thought I came but I checked and it was pre cum. My predicament is I wont see my girl for another 6 weeks yet. Will it be okay for me at the end of 30 days to M using my imagination and only thinking of her?
I am scrolling through Success posts from those who are at a similar stage to me... just to add my congratulations and support
