Progress Report- 'Pickup' with a Twist

Well, all I can say is meeting girls is ridiculously easy. Today, chatted up a coffee shop girl who was off the charts attractive. Joined her table where we spent a good couple of hours together. All from a response to a smile. And this is coming from a guy who not more than two years back struggled to meet any girls. Who inhabited an emotional wasteland.

Looks [or age for that matter] do not really matter. I am in my 40s, shortish, with greying hair [but I am fit!], and yet I manage to attract all these twenty and thirty somethings. It has got to the point where I can not keep track of the dates I am making, and am having to cancel the odd one.

Here are the differences I have made in my own life, which has seemed to make all the difference in meeting and attracting woman:

• Intensity, unflinching eye contact, not being in your head, smiling unashamedly when given the opportunity, seizing the opportunity
• holding the eye contact in conversation. This is the test of your substance here... are you the real deal? Can she find you interesting/ intriguing? You do NOT have to do anything flashy. Hold your ground. You are the man. Provide a platform. let her talk!
• You are the real deal, by being present, P-free, in the flow, spontaneous
• Getting used to talking to beautiful woman
• Enjoy the feminine energy

 

Had a date with train girl last night. It went OK, but I wasn't really feeling it. I'm finding now I'm needing to 'screen' more; no point getting the date for a date's sake. So after seeing her off after a nice dinner together, I hit the bar. As I went alone, I went straight to the bar, and started talking to a chap who was also there by himself. We then teamed up with another guy, and managed to talk to a few tables of girls in the course of the night. I had some conversations, but at the end of the night had no follow up dates [and only one fickle number]! Compared to the copious of dates I find during the day, the bar scene seems like so much more work! Plus by focusing on 'day game', one can be both healthier and wealthier! ha ha.

The guys I were with proved to be more of a liability than an asset with the woman. One of them was simply too drunk. Why do men feel the need for 'Dutch courage'? What are they afraid of??

Today I have a coffee date with an off the charts girl I met yesterday in a café. Generally speaking, the quality of the girls you meet during the day are better.

 

So I'm on the subway. I cute girl gets on, and decides to sit next to me.
Proximity! When a girl puts herself within shooting range, open!! In effect, she is opening you!

So she whips out her phone, looking very busy. I give it a couple of minutes, not too long as am getting off in a few stops. I ask some banal question about directions. She very studiously and formally checks her smart phone for the subway map. Gives me the information. I say thank you, and then look to start a conversation with some small talk. She replies curtly and coldly, and goes back to her phone. I leave it for a few minutes, and then start the conversation again. This time it hooks; I get the eye contact, the smiles, and warm conversation ensues. I have two stops to get the number. I get the last digit just as the door is about to close, and scurry off.
Do not react negatively to this coldness. It's a normal response to a stranger. Take it on the chin like a man, politely, give her a little space, then try again. The three strikes and your out is a good rule. Most people that approach give up after the initial 'cold blast'. When you weather it, and step up to the plate again, you are showing what you are made of.

So she replies to my text, and after half an hour of back and forth we have the date organized for tonight.

 

Not really. I think a 'shit test' is more a calculated move to 'test' whether you are the real deal or not. You will most probably see that sort of thing in the bars/clubs where woman are can be in a more defensive mode.

Often that bit of coldness you get in cold approach is just an unconscious reaction. It is cold approach after all. And your job is to warm it up, and to provide a space in which she feels comfortable to talk. And yes, once she is warmed up, let her talk.

 

I'm not sure what is in the city's water, but cold approach was insanely easy this weekend. But then, maybe something has changed in me since being P free.

• My head is clear, I am less needy
• I am enjoying the company, and not concerned about the outcome
• Thinking less sexually, and more in the moment
• Girls picking up on the above,
• Able to see their attraction level build
• Able to communicate/ sub-communicate with emotions [easy to say in theory]
• Them actually initiating the text half of the time

This morning, I noticed a girl noticing me. It would have been so easy to start a conversation. Just couldn't be bothered. ha ha

For those who are thinking about putting yourself out there and beginning cold approach, I'd say just start with the small things like smiles, eye contact, greetings, holding doors open, carrying the shopping bags for little old ladies. It shouldn't take too long to be getting those dates lined up. It took me a year to get good at it.