I made it over 6 months of no viewing or going to porn websites. That's great, but why do I still have porn flashbacks/sexual fantasies that still make me want to edge? I don't want to go back to old me. I'm having lots of morning woods, but the problem is that stuff makes me want to edge.
Nice one. I'm guessing you still have some way to go? And you'll probably always have fantasies that make you want to edge. I think it becomes a case of channelling that energy when libido comes back stronger.
I used to think that there was nothing I could do about the sexual fantasies. But the truth was that the craving didn't stop until I stopped the craving. One time, I was sober from porn for over 200 days. Yet I was compensating by using fantasy and lust so much, I heated up my brain, and aroused myself to the point of walking into a massage parlor. I can usually go about 6+ months of this white-knuckling strategy until I run out of steam. Prayer helps me to say "No" to just one look or one thought, the one that matters... The First One If I say "No" to the first one, there won't be a second, or a third, or a fifth, or an eighth. I don't do this perfectly, but I'm winning significantly more battles than I'm losing which is why I'll win this war. Trying to quit porn while still allowing my mind and eyes to roam wherever without restraint is like giving the enemy a free touchdown before the game has even started. The real war is in the eyes and mind. Focus on that, and the behavior will follow. Congratulations on 6 months
You also need to replace those sexual experiences with new ones, otherwise your brain will just keep referring back to the thing it knows best.
