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On my very last chance

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Jongo_jensen, Mar 5, 2024.

  1. Mar 5, 2024 #1
    Jongo_jensen

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    Hey guys I'm currently on a break from my partner to which I love very very much and have a newborn with. I have a problem with only fans models leaks and stuff idk what about them they just really reel me in. And my partner found out about it about 5months ago ish while she was pregnant. Went through 1 stage where I tried lying and slightly changing details to not make me seem that bad. But then it happened again and the lying stopped and I came clean about everything. But I continued still (stupidly) and she found out again a couple of times. She stayed with me for baby's sake but I could tell she was not the same. She evatually threw me out as I never helped her recover and never gave her reassurance. I tryed to I just didn't really know how to deal with emotions and trauma and all that. I come from a family where you can't cry you just gota move on so I don't process my emotions very well and csnt get them out to help her understand. But I've started looking into how I can help her cause I really love and I want my child to have both parents as I did not. Sorry if this is a bit long but just looking for suggestions on what to do and all
     
    Jongo_jensen, Mar 5, 2024
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  2. Mar 5, 2024 #2
    KevinesKay

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    Welcome,

    Find a support group, a 12-step meeting for instance (SA, SAA, SLAA). There you'll address your problem of lack of connection. We need other men in our lives that are looking out for our personal and spiritual growth.
    The opposite of addiction is connection.
     
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  3. Mar 6, 2024 #3
    Real Jerry Seinfeld

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    Sorry to hear about your problems. It sounds like there's two issues: the porn and the perceived lack of support.

    The longer you're out the house, the harder it's going to be to get back in. So whatever it is she's looking to hear/see, you've got to find a way to present proof of it. If she's looking for support, maybe start there. Provide the kind of support she's looking for without prompting. Show up and do something thoughtful/nice/helpful. Show you're capable of change/growth.
     
    Real Jerry Seinfeld, Mar 6, 2024
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