Hi @hhh999 Thank you for your answer and especially for the tinder advice. I wish you a wonderful vacation and luck with the ladies!
I approached one girl at the buffet today, but didn't introduce myself or anything. Don't know if that counts. Needless to say, approaching girls at the beach is a lot harder than in college, cause you never know how old they are. At the beach, a girl could look 18, but be a 13 year old child. Or, she could look 22, but be a 30 year old mother of 3. It's dangerous to approach the wrong person.
Talked to a girl in the hotel gym today. (She was a drop-dead gorgeous baddie.) Asked her to spot me on the bench press. Chatted with her a little bit, asked her name, and introduced myself to her. After that, we each went back to exercising on our own machines. This part went really well. However, I wanted to ask for her number on my way out, but I got too scared of doing it in the end. Perhaps I'll see her at the beach or at the buffet, and I'll say hi. Feels like a bittersweet victory over my social/approach anxiety. So here's my counter to keep track. Women approached + complimented = 50/50 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| Women approached + complimented + introduced myself to = 9/50 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| Women approached + complimented + introduced myself to + asked for phone # = 0/50 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| Women approached + complimented + introduced myself to + asked for phone # + asked out in person= 0/150 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
I hit a milestone yesterday - I asked a girl out for the first time since I started this specific challenge (I've asked plenty of girls out before this challenge, but I would always get super nervous each time, which would usually result in rejection.) I walked up to a girl at the pool and asked her to look after my phone. I took a swim, and then started talking to her when I got out. Then I told her that I'd be at the beach at a certain hour, if she'd like to join. She didn't show up in the end, but that's not a big deal. So here's my counter to keep track. Women approached + complimented = 50/50 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| Women approached + complimented + introduced myself to = 9/50 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| Women approached + complimented + introduced myself to + asked for phone # = 0/50 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| Women approached + complimented + introduced myself to + asked for phone # + asked out in person= 1/150 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
Forgot to update in the last few days. So here's my counter to keep track. Women approached + complimented = 50/50 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| Women approached + complimented + introduced myself to = 13/50 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| Women approached + complimented + introduced myself to + asked for phone # = 0/50 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| Women approached + complimented + introduced myself to + asked for phone # + asked out in person= 1/150 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
I just got back from vacation. Before I left, I asked a girl I knew to take care of my pet (a small rodent). I think I like her, and she seems at least a little interested in me. Before I left, I asked if she wanted to hang out in the next few days, and she said "Yeah, totally!" I'll probably call her in the next day or two to confirm if/when/where we'll "hang out".
Ok. Since I already completed a 90 day reboot several months ago, I'm making the decision to end this challenge due to very painful "blue balls" (which I haven't experienced before now). Before making this decision, I read some studies that say that excessive SR can cause abdominal and testicular pain (which is exactly what I'm experiencing rn). I will only practice MO in moderation to prevent "blue balls." I will also continue improving my social skills with girls as before. I will also continue my commitment to not watch any P in my life.
I ended the challenge a few minutes ago. The pain has gone down a little bit, but still very painful.
Sorry to hear that u ended nofap for MO bro. It will still be amazing and hugely beneficial if u do stay away from P and keep improving social skills. Ty for the advice anyway ig... What does 'in moderation' mean tho, and if u are doing it please make sure P is not involved bc that can ruin everything. Personally i find that MO decreases my desire and ability to speak to girls, but tell me how its going for u so far. Good luck and keep strong bro.
According to the NoFap founders, the NoFap website is anti P, but not anti MO. They say that they only encourage temporary abstinence from MO. I absolutely agree that P ruins everything, and I won't ever watch it again. I've never watched it since I quit cold turkey almost 7 months ago. MO "in moderation" means no more than 1 time per day, and only after meeting all of the goals I set for myself that day (including my goal of talking to at least 10 women per day, once I return to college).
Spoke to 2 girls at the gym today, and asked them their names. Women approached + complimented = 50/50 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| Women approached + complimented + introduced myself to = 15/50 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| Women approached + complimented + introduced myself to + asked for phone # = 0/50 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| Women approached + complimented + introduced myself to + asked for phone # + asked out in person= 1/150 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
Spoke to another girl at the gym yesterday. Unlike the two girls from last time, she seemed a lot more interested. I introduced myself and my gym bro to her, and she said she went there every other day. I told her I go almost every day around the same time. Hopefully I'll see her again one of these days and I'll ask her out. Women approached + complimented = 50/50 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| Women approached + complimented + introduced myself to = 16/50 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| Women approached + complimented + introduced myself to + asked for phone # = 0/50 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| Women approached + complimented + introduced myself to + asked for phone # + asked out in person= 1/150 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
Hey didn't see this until now. Sorry I didn't respond. I appreciate you including me in this challenge. I recently went on two dates and the girl seems into me. I hope everyone here does well!
Women approached + complimented = 50/50 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| Women approached + introduced myself to = ???/50 (A lot, I lost count.) |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| Women approached + introduced myself to + asked for phone # = 1/50 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| Women approached + introduced myself to + asked out in person= 2/150 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
Women approached + complimented = 50/50 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| Women approached + introduced myself to = ???/50 (A lot, I lost count.) |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| Women approached + introduced myself to + asked for phone # = 4/50 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| Women approached + introduced myself to + asked out in person= 3/150 |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
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