Hello fellow NoFappars I'm looking for help to get rid of my porn addiction since I unfortunately got back into P and M in the second half of 2016. For a time I was really depressed and even had suicidal thoughts what led me to watch porn again. Before that I abstained 1 1/2 years and I want to get back there. But I keep relapsing and just can't seem to get where I used to be. I hope you guys can give me some motivation and help so I can kick this addiction once and for all. I don't suffer from any porn related issues like ED but I don't want this addiction to control my life. Any help will be appreaciated. Let's kick porn in the ass in 2017!
Maybe you haven't set the proper goals. Or you don't value them as much as you do porn. Anyway I wish you all the best of luck for 2017 Red Eagle.
I understand the desire for motivation Red Eagle, I feel that too but a good reddit thread that the NoFap app took me too has been especially helpful. Essentially it said that motivation itself is unreliable and not conducive to success. It's primarily about discipline. You've gotta build that shit, a little at a time, day by day. We'll still be with you for support when it gets tough, but a lot of it's down to the individual. I relapsed earlier this week and ended my longest streak since I first discovered M about 9 years ago. Having a good streak to hold up and say "I did this!" is such a beautiful yet indescribable feeling. You've done it before, you'll can do it again.
Thanks, I'll start today too. I wish you all good luck as well. Thank you. Yes you're right. When I abstained from porn It was mainly discipline that led me to such a long streak. Stress ended it unfortunately. I think if I manage to get on a long streak, like 60 days +, it should get much easier. But getting there in the first place is the issue.
Really hard to tell. I started this very long streak of not watching porn at october 19th 2014. I watched a porn clip, jerked off and said to myself afterwards. Ok that's it, and stopped. I didn't do anything special. It just worked. I had no special strategy to avoid triggers or anything like that. That's why I can't seem to manage it this time. The way it worked two years ago just doesn't work now anymore. I'm still gonna try it.
That's interesting. I've had smaller streaks that have started like that. I think I've usually had something else to do with my time or I've been around people more than being alone. Best of luck dude, and Happy New Year.