masturbation free for more than 6.5 months

Hello
My last PMO session was in end of june. I tried to end PMO for 1.5 years now and today I hit 6.5 months without masturbating. Yey!

Let me share you some of my experiences and thaughts.

I am way more focused, energized and social active when I'm controlling my sexual energys and as I truly understood this, NoFap became really easy for me. I haven't checked Nofapforums out for more than 5 months or sth but last days I had to learn that even if you control that lusting monster inside your head that forces you to go in the "Auto-pilot mode" and scrolling and scrolling over tons of pics of naked bodys (you know what I'm talking about), you will never Kill it.
You will never hit finish line, a point where you can say "i did it and it's over". So 90 days abstaining will get you no where! Trust me.

But you will reach plateaus. through that journey, you will learn to accept your instincts, feelings and urges and respond to them in a way that makes you feel calm. The very opposite of what PMO is. It's uncontrolled, a rush where you give in and loose yourself and disconnecting with the world around you.
That's the best thing that NoFap gave me: Calm. Peace. and this makes you feel present and strong in that very moment and situation you're in. And from this state of mind, you can experience sweet things as you have a feeling that you can decide what to do and experience next without shame, fear, guilt, being jealy. You won't overthink but just simply have more power to take courage and do a thing you're afraid of. (I personally start to believe that overthinking is nothing more but fear that made it into you're head but fear doesn't belong there)

I got to admit that I found myself especially last days that is i was browsing the internet I somehow came in this Auto-Pilot mode and the monster inside of me forced me to continue searching and clicking for more and more nudy bodies. But Ive always managed to notice: " Wait.. WTF are you doing". in moments like these it's best to just accept that you're not perfect and allow yourself to do mistakes because that's the only way you will learn!! Start focusing on how less connected you feel, how shame, guilt and overthinking kicks in when you give into a rush!

Let me clarify one thing: The problems you feel and the reason why you're feeling crappy and started browsing Nofap is PORN, not masturbation or sexual acivity with a partner. Porn is a stimulus that exploits your system. Edging therefore is bathing in that rush that kicks in when you start looking porn and is the most damaging thing you can do, in fact, it's worse than PMOing because you never get the release. In fact, it's not porn itself but your sexual excitement you feel while watching porn. There's no difference between watching porn, images, reading kinky texts or looking at wedding dresses or whatever, it's your excitement towards it and you train yourself to exploit this excitement (but ofc HD porn causes more excitement than kinky texts).

And one more thing: You will feel bad and weak at some points. Questioning this whole thing. But you have to go through it. It's worth it!! Trust me.

I hope this will help atleast one person. Thanks for reading.
CaptainFaptastic

 

wow! thanks alot for your replies. It makes me happy to inspire you and sharing my experiences at the same time. I really hope that if you struggle that this will help you. You won't get superpowers but you will benefit alot of it in many situations. It's so awful that we are a generation that has to deal with such a huge thing like porn that misleads and distracts us from ourselves and gives us an image that we desire but can't find in real life. It's an incredible feeling to look into a hot womens eyes but not lusting after her. Thats what girls notice and they start flirting alot. They see you're not lusting and they be like: "Why isn't he checking me out? or is he? He loves me! or he hates me??omg i can't handle this I'ma need to know!!" and you become interessting to them. This is what happens when people on this forum talk about all the looks they get. The moment you look at her on the same level as you are things change. Sex is escalating emotion. That's why porn and hookers became for me a turn off and since I got this perspective, nofap got so easy.Seriously. But these are only my personal experiences, do your very own! Nofap is about getting your own knowledge about your drive. And that's why you need to stick to it no matter how tough in this present moment. It took me 1.5 years years and some temporary defeat but keep going

One more tip: Do sports. But do something you love to do. I've been going to the gym but I had to force me to go there alot and I didn't like it. Since I started MMA I love to go 5 times a week pushing me beyond my own limits. It's so good to have something where you are 100% present in what you are doing and your body loves to sweat and exercise.

 

to be honest this is something that's bugging me and I haven't figured out how to coup with so I have inner calm. I fantasize alot about women before nighttime.It's kind of escape and leaves me frustrated cause I don't have something going on right now. A burning desire that waits for action. Hard to handle. My future goal is to be aware of that fact when I stand in front of a girl I like so I have the guts to stand my man and get laid.

Thank you. I've had something going on in summertime but it has been a while. Sex was good but we didn't fall for another.
Well I haven't stressed myself lately with "omg I need to have sex right now". This is something I have learned threw my nofap jounay. I'm too busy doing things I like to do and keep worring less about having the act of sex itself. i have figured out for myself that when it comes to my sexual desires that there is no option to respond to them but finding a partner. Finding a partner ain't that easy. Need to figure that one out too.

It takes time too change from masturbating on your own on a daily basis , to having a nice sexual life without doing it to yourself.
This is what I mean by "there is no end in this challenge". I may do it to myself in remote future. But not in my stage where I'm figuring out alot of howto's because it makes me escape from these important questions.