Is it possible to Fight this addiction alone?

I tried to beat this thing alone for years and I was not successful

12 step programs have been instrumental in my recovery.

On Day 157 in a row of no PMO at the moment (thank God)

 

Sa.org

 

I am not sure what you mean

There are in person meetings depending on where you live. There are also Zoom meetings

If you are serious about getting to a meeting send me a PM and I will help you

 

I would try and find a local meeting where you live. It can be an SA or an SAA meeting. You can also find a Zoom meeting or an online meeting. After COVID there are many Zoom meetings to choose from. I can help you with locating an appropriate meeting further if you PM me.

Cheers and good luck to you.

 

I did this once and it went badly. I told my old pastor and he told everyone during a bible study that I look at porn. I had an accountability parter irl and it didn't help. Going to SAA freaks me out and I can't go to it every week anyway because I live in a village and can't travel to the city every week. Therapy is overrated and in some circumstances, it can make things worse. The most success I've had is when I've set myself a to-do list and focused on that. When I do this I tend to forget about porn let alone look at it. But that's just me. There's no one-size-fits-all. What works for me may not work for you.

 

Yes I fought it alone! Before I ever knew about an accountabilty partner what happened was that...I continued my mindful fight...during the last days just before this streak I started reading Quran Translation, Writing about where I was weak that I got into it again and also used to write what Ill do next time. And after that I started reading pornography addiction book and then NoFaps guide book. After that I registered on NoFap and I relapsed and reset my counter and wrote why I was out. I started thinking after taking all these steps that I can do it. It was confidence and then once day watching a youtube video I got a bad thought, it aroused me but when I said I wouldnt get aroused I felt my libido and that desire was gone -though that was not that stronger to say no but yes it is that day and this one...الحمداللہ Im going on...

 

thanks for this offer. is there someone that can point me towards some online groups?
I went to SA years ago but got mega scared when some guy came and casually mentioned he used to assault boys and men regularly. needless to say, I left and never went back.

They can be good, helpful meetings. but be on high alert with ways to protect yourself and only go to meetings in highly public areas, have phone, etc.

 

Just going into a building and telling strangers how I messed. I'm quite introverted so the thought of going into a room full of people and saying stuff is intimidating. I would find it intimidating anyway but to talk about something so personal is worse.

 

When you think about it you're in a room full of people who've messed up sexually. I dare say some of them have done worse than look porn like rape. It's one thing to look at porn, it's another to sexually assault people irl. Even in this forum, people can get weird. Some guys on here give needless graphic descriptions of sexual encounters they've had.

Maybe going to a man's club like Andy's Man Club or Men's Shed would be better? Such clubs are designed to help men with their mental health issues. Maybe we spend too much time talking about porn and it makes things worse? Maybe being around people who don't have this problem is what we actually need? As the saying goes: You are the company you keep.

 

Find your Ikigai. I overcame it alone. Well community only.