I confess that I have an addiction to sex AND I don't know how to break this addiction. I started with an addiction to MO. Later, PMO was added to my list of addictions. Later, oral sex was added to my list of addictions. Later, anal sex was added to my list of addictions. When I have anal sex or oral sex, I end up PMOing and MOing because I might as well do the whole lot. Currently, I'm more tempted for oral sex. I go for a few days abstaining from all sexual activity before one tempting thought enters my mind and won't leave until I act upon it. I've tried to break this addiction repeatedly and have failed every single time. I need to know how to break this addiction. I need to know how to deal with that one tempting thought that just won't leave once it enters my mind until I act upon it. I watch, listen to, and read about all the successful people who have been there and done that and just can't get how they came out of that. Can anyone identify with my current struggle? Can anyone tell me what works and what doesn't work? This is my cry for help. I have an addiction to sex AND I need to know how to break this addiction.
So you're having sex and still unhappy? Hmm, maybe if you focus on doing it right more, like breathing deeply, gazing into each others eyes and stuff? Idk I've never had but it seems to me that you can get addicted to anything in this life lol. Just stay around man and make a commitment. This community will help. But please just observe your beahaviour and learn from it. When you get the urge to PMO just pause for a second and rememeber how you feel. So next time you get urge you say "aha" that's how I felt before when i relpased now I'll prevent it. Then do something that will get your mind off it - take a deep breath, slap yourself, go take a walk , read a book away from computer/phone etc. You must incorporate a counter-relapse habit when the urge strikes if you wanna succeed at this.
Addiction to sex is a real psychological condition, but maybe, like fapequalsdeath said, you need a commitment, a meaningful relationship. However, if you are truly addicted, there are group therapies all over america and other countries that can help you, like alcoholics anonymous. Its a matter of finding one and going.
Recognising that you have an addiction to sex is a huge step, you should be proud of yourself for admitting it. It is real and just as damaging as PMO addiction. From what I have learnt it is never really about what you are addicted to, but what is behind the addiction. Try to think when did you first notice the addiction and what do you think caused it? Establishing a root cause of the addiction can be a good starting point towards getting out of the cycle. As mentioned, therapy is great for exploring this stuff so I would highly recommend that as an approach.
