How do i recover? I just start new relationship?

Highly suggest hard mode reboot.

Your body will not be able to tell the difference between, PMO and real sex in the days after. Look into chaser effect. The chemical imbalances of the brain need time to cool down.

 

I think it's possible to do so. But I do not think it's the shortest path to getting better.

If you feel you have an extreme addiction it may take trying something "extreme" to change.

If you haven't look into "Your Brain on Porn". Specifically the portion on dopamine.

I think the brain struggles to see the difference between PMO and an O from sex because the end result is the same dopamine hit. Everyone's path is different, but be aware that you are going to likely start trying to replace PMO with sex to get that hit. Eventually what happens is when sex isn't an option your brain will start validating little things like "just a look" and say that it is ok to do so. This is when you'll eventually fall back into PMO unless you have a firm grip on things. If you decide to have, be aware of that anyway.

 

Check out Karezza maybe that would be something you can both enjoy.

 

Congratulations on the sex, commiserations on the 27 years of addiction.

I think you're taking the right approach in terms of cutting down on porn usage over the past few months. If you're at every 5 days, get down to once a week, once a fortnight, etc. Just continue to wean yourself off it if that's working.

With regards to orgasm, it could be a) you couldn't do it because you're too used to doing it to porn/masturbation, or b) you took too much sildinafil. I certainly wouldn't worry about it. Keep focusing on your progress, a girlfriend after so many years must feel pretty good.

 

I'd say it's only a problem if the flashbacks make you want to use porn and masturbate in a way that's difficult to resist.

 

I think sex is fine during a reboot or recovery but if you're actually addicted to sex then the story is different.