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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by onRecoveryAndBeyond, Mar 8, 2024.

Can i go back to normal as i was before P or even close to that?

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  1. onRecoveryAndBeyond

    onRecoveryAndBeyond New Fapstronaut

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    Sorry for long post. But please read if you have time and give some advice.

    This is my first post here, I am a 22+ years old straight male, i am suffering from p**n addiction and it has caused a lot of distress in my life. I want to quit it and that is why i joined this community to get advice and support.

    I will share about my condition.

    I am watching p from past 10 years, from 12 to 18 i could only watch it few times a day because someone could easily walk inside my room, but after i turned 18 i went to college 2000km away from home and i was living in hostel there and that's where things started to go bad, even at that time i was watching hardcore stuff, which is nothing compared to what i watch now a days, i will list some of the genre that i used to watch, if it will trigger you you can skip next few lines,
    d33pthr0@t, interracial, Inc3st, blackm@il, f0rc3d
    , etc.

    After i went to college they were not enough for me and i started to find more and more hardcore stuff, then as time passed i induced some unhealthy fetishes, i masturbated a lot, on an average i do it 3 ties a day, some days i do it 5 times my max is 10 times a day. now from the past 1 year i am addicted to very bad stuff, i will list them and it may be triggering for some, so you can skip next few lines.
    I watch p in which girl is degraded and sometime man is degraded, i watch IR p**n,
    rimjob, femdom, cuckold, NTR, piss drinking, scat(i have watched very little of this genre), sissy, trap
    , etc. I read a lot of p**n captions and i have also made some myself, I have used some rebloging site to do watch different kind of fetishes and kinks. I am not proud of anything i have done, i want to stop but the urges are very strong. please guide me on that.


    P have given me both mental and physical disorders. I can not get fully hard without watching disgusting stuff, and i have body dysmorphia about my penis size because of p. My penis is 14-15 cm long and when i searched on internet it turned out to be average, but some part of my brain do not accept it and i think i am very small and i will not be able to do the stuff that someone with a big d will be able to do. I have searched about a lot of ways to increase my penis size and there is a lot of info on that but i have not tried anything, i have just read the theory. I am a virgin and i have never had a girlfriend in my life, never kissed a girl, never even hugged one, and never even held hands with a girl in my life. I do not have a single female friend. P has changed the way how i think about girls and it causes a lot of anxiety for me. I think that all girls are doing disgusting things that adult actress do on internet, i am worried that will i be able to make a relationship with a girl when in my mind i think that all girls are sluts or whore and if they are not bad guys make them do bad stuff. I overthink a lot that my future girlfriend will be that kind of girl in disguise and will cheat on me with someone else, etc. I know all these scenarios are crazy but my mind thinks about them due to p**n.


    Due to p**n i am not able to do my college work and prepare for interviews, i watch it all day and all night, but i want to quit. PLEASE HELP ME!!!

    I think i have shared enough about my condition. I do not know how many have suffered from same kind of problems, but if you have and you know how to get out of this mess, please tell me the way.
     
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  2. Dr.J_76ers

    Dr.J_76ers Fapstronaut

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    You can go back to normal. Just get on the train fella and don't look back.
     
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  3. Imagine you were a tree in a forest ... would you compare? Watching porn is not helpful, comparing is not helpful. What else you do that is not helpful to you?
     
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  4. Orphan

    Orphan Fapstronaut

    Yes, you can get back to normal. The brain is able to return to baseline - but it needs a lot of work from you in the beginning.

    Taking some time to learn about this problem will really help in your recovery. Plus, it will take you away from Porn for a while. Read the reboot material (available here => http://www.nofap.com/getting-started) and then come up with a plan for what you will do when you are faced with urges. It has good information and good advice, so don't skip it! :)

    Also, this is a great post from a nofap veteran about what kind of things could help you during your reboot => https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/time-to-be-done-with-this.140257/page-25#post-1442099

    As you start your recovery, perhaps start writing a journal? If you feel comfortable telling people about happened and what's going on now, you will start to feel accountable to them. You may even inspire others. It's a nice feeling! This will help your recovery.

    Also, stopping bad behaviours is only half the battle. This fight will probably also involve a lifestyle change. Think back to WHY you started to use porn in the first place, then try to add things into your life that makes you the opposite kind of person - someone who doesn't want to engage in PMO. Think about doing:
    • Something you enjoy
    • Something you're good at
    • Something important
    • Something for somebody else, without thought of reward (and if you DO get an unintended reward, do something ELSE, perhaps for a different person or group).
    Read the journals of others - we all learn from each other, and you may find very useful insights from someone outside your age group or part of the world.

    You CAN change if you put the work in to learn about the addiction, to learn about yourself, and to then go make the changes. And we all hope you will.

    Make the next choice, the right choice.
    ~Orf
     
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  5. Prophet Harry

    Prophet Harry Fapstronaut

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    Hey, brother! Welcome to the NoFap gang!

    You can get back to normal, just follow NoFap and don't even look at porn substitutes (like girls in bikini, etc) and get very busy with studies, work and game-up your skills, basically use your time wisely, you can also try to find an accountability partner, use porn blockers on your devices if they seem to help you.

    All the best!
     
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