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Jimbo1989 · Feb 16, 2024

My husband is mid 30's and been into PMO since his teens and a couple of years ago decided he wanted to get away from P and reduce M. He tried but didn't really have any success.

About 2 years ago by coincidence, during COVID, he went on anti-depressants for anxiety. The doctor told him at the time there could be some 'sexual' side effects but he didn't really pay much attention what these may be. After about 3-4 months he found his libido had gone way down and this had really affected his urges and need to masturbate. He's been well over a year now since he did it last and is very happy with this.

His doctor has now said it should be fine to come off his medication but he is really not sure what to do. They say that any sexual side affects should return to what they were without medication but he is thinking he may prefer to stay on them to help reduce his urge to M regularly.

Anyone been through similar or have any thoughts?

legendracer79 · Feb 19, 2024

Effects on sex drive are a widely reported issue with SSRI's and other anti-anxiety anti-depressant medications, my husband found similar side effects when he was on them for a short time about 5 years ago. It really depends on what the doctor suggests so probably best to discuss it with them and your partner. If they are really helping with NoFap due to reduction of his sex drive then maybe he would want to stay on them, if this is an option?

Real Jerry Seinfeld · Feb 20, 2024

I've no experience with that medication myself, but I'd think that even if his sex drive recovers, that doesn't mean he is back in the midst of a porn addiction. Given that he's been porn-free for some time, those arousal and reward pathways will likely be significantly weakened.

Pardon the personal question, but have you two been regularly sexually active across this time? If so, I believe his response will be to seek sex more often rather than seek porn. I could be wrong, but based on my understanding of addiction and habit, that would be assumption.

Jimbo1989 · Feb 22, 2024

Real Jerry Seinfeld said: ↑

I've no experience with that medication myself, but I'd think that even if his sex drive recovers, that doesn't mean he is back in the midst of a porn addiction. Given that he's been porn-free for some time, those arousal and reward pathways will likely be significantly weakened.

Pardon the personal question, but have you two been regularly sexually active across this time? If so, I believe his response will be to seek sex more often rather than seek porn. I could be wrong, but based on my understanding of addiction and habit, that would be assumption.
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Yes, we have been sexually active so it has not been complete abstinence for him, just from PMO. Another side effect has been the big delay in his time to orgasm, which had been very beneficial He's going back to the doctors next week to decide what to do.

Be Inspired · Feb 22, 2024

It's tough to say. If he relied on the pills to stay away from masturbation but kept looking at P, he will likely relapse when discontinuing the medication.

If he had a genuine recovery then it doesn't matter so much whether he takes the pills anymore.

Jimbo1989 · Mar 8, 2024

Well, he decided to stay on them for another 6 months as he feels they definitely have had a big effect on his urge to masturbate and help him avoid this. I'm also secretly not unhappy about this also as he takes and long, long time to orgasm, sometimes not at all, which is great for me getting there.

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