Balancing Act

I'm 48 and married to a wonderful woman. For as long as I can remember I have played the balancing act between PMO and sex. Almost split evenly every other day. Occasionally I would double up on PMO. For the most part it hasn't affected my sex life but it has recently and it's just time to stop. I'm curious if anyone has a similar situation and if you were able to recover/reboot from porn and continue your sex life normally?

 

I'm a week removed and no issues so far. I've quit for a few months here and there throughout the years and I've always done it cold turkey. I've really tried to limit my consumption and I don't know at what level my addiction would qualify as. I will say the two times I've had sex this week has been incredible so I don't know if that's residual dopamine or if I'm just not going to experience a flat line.

 

I feel like I'm quitting to be a better man in my relationship. I'm on day 12 and I really haven't felt a lot of the things I've been reading about. Sex with my wife has definitely improved. I am not getting urges to watch porn at all but I do still have pervy eyes when I'm out and about. I try to catch myself and avoid the rush. I am starting to question if my habit was to the point where it really hurt me. Not that I want to go back to it but I'm just not going through all of the bad stuff, at least not yet.

 

I started with magazines around 12 and I've done it a few times a week since. I swapped to movies around age 21 I would say. In my marriage I've limited PMO to every other day and only watch it when I'm going to orgasm. In other words I wouldn't allow myself to watch it just to watch it. We would have sex every other day in between. I also wouldn't allow myself to do it more than once a day the past year or so.

 

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I haven't increased, still every other day. It has certainly gotten much better.