I am the same as your husband. It is killing me and i am sure is killing him too. I am sure if i hadn't seen porn i wouldn't be like this. I am sure he loves you, as i love my partner. This thing is completely separate.
Regardless of what happens with you and your husband, PLEASE get tested for STI's, if you haven't already. Many are curable or treatable, as long as you know about them.
