30 Days Makes a Difference.

Sound very similar to me and am two weeks behind you!

All the best

 

@britaxe

I'm almost nearing day 30 and I'm amazed at what I just read. I feel like I would've written the EXACT same things you mention in your post. I think I might add some more but I'm only going to write a success story when I feel the time is right. I think I'll just know when that happens.

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I couldn't agree more. This has really been the most satisfying thing in my own journey and I think has personally helped me on so many different levels.

Congratulations! Keep on going

 

Yes, @britaxe, go on like that, I can only agree!

Almost 2 years ago, I went for 35 days full total hard mode my first time.
This event was overwhelming, and it proved to be the offspring of my further healing.
Although there came relapses, the addiction began to become weaker, like a wall becoming thinner, while at the same time other skills where growing.

In fact, the way out consists of two important parts:
a) Full and total abstinence - which means starving the addiction
b) Building up new skills - which means nurturing other parts of your personality.

Over time, due to improved skills, you become more balanced, and the addiction fades. You see then that the addiction is a only a placeholder for other parts of our life, which you just didn't make use of.

 

I'm finding that to be the case right now. It's as though the more times I've fallen to relapses, the easier it has been to deal with it. I'm currently on day 12 and I have to say that I've had very, very small urges. But I'm not going to get ahead of myself, it's all about taking this one day at a time. Though I will say that I feel like I'm very, very close to finally have what it takes to conquering this addiction.

 

During those 30 days, was there ever a time when you looked at psubs, like instagram models etc?

 

thanks for the answer. What does 'totsll' mean?

 

HI all dont consider me rude, but are u people bragging of what u are saying or did u really achieved all this because saying is one thing and doing is another, i am a newbie here just came to this site yesterday i have seen this section it indeed is a hope,i can feel a light coming across the big tunnel but i cant get past 2 days or maximum 4 days not more than that,doing this for 30 days i am not even imagining in my dreams because i am a practical man i want to hear about practical stuff,for me nofap does not only mean no ejaculation it means no playing with my dick my hand and dick should be total stangers with each other leaving the time when i bath,u know after 2 day my dick feels so good that my hand gets attracted to it and i feel why should i give up this beautiful thing even though i know it is not good and i will break my commitment,the thing is when i feel that huge uncontrollable urge i justt say hell to commitment,even if i wannna start nofap practically speaking i will have to shag like there is no tommorow and like this is the last time i will mastubrate so that my nuts will be completely emptied,these actress in the newspaper then give me urge i slowly move towards internet thereafter ,any woman who is sexually desirable i just wanna fuck her but to get this thinking out of my mind i shagg i shaggg and i shagggggg,gets frustrated,i just wanna stop for real i have tried a lot in my past my highest was 9 days that too before 2 years and that too when we went to picnic with friends,give me steps to follow blindly i just wanna endddddddd i just wannaaa endddd ,i wannaa lead a good peaceful lifeeeeeeeeee were i will work with my full efficiency,were i can do what i intend to do

 

every thing u said i know but the problem is i am trying this for more than 6 months but to the max i get to 4 days not more than that lets see what happens this time,really feeling good to be here

 

i have been trying this for more than 6 months maan,gets frustrated and give up,now i am always on this site and readig all these articles feels good i have completed 18 hours now,i just wanna achieve my goal of 10 days now

 

You need to firstly educate yourself about porn addiction. Every aspect of it. The science behind the addiction, the withdrawals that you will inevitably face and the problems you'll end up with if you continue to PMO, both physically and psychologically. Go to yourbrainonporn.com and get reading. I've stopped counting days after day 30. I've completely understood the reason why this is bad for me and I'm already experiencing a whole range of benefits so to my mind, porn is just not an option.
I'm okay with the idea of life without porn. When I first started though, this wasn't the case and the mere idea of 'life without porn' was scary and felt impossible.

Secondly, stop doubting yourself and others who are either starting out or well into their journey. Every individual is different, it might take you a long time but you've just got to keep on coming back. Commit to it fully. Not halfheartedly. The first 90 days, in my opinion, need to be hardmode or nothing at all.

So make a firm decision. PMO is just not worth it.

 

i have started for 10 days,what are u saying i must extend it to 90 days,let me do it for 10 days because even 10 days will be first time in my life

 

I'm not suggesting that you do 90 days in one go. You can make short term goals, whatever works. Read the entire post. No point doing selective reading.

If you aren't going to take the time to read posts fully then you aren't going to spend time reading about the addiction either I presume. Unless you do that, you aren't going to get too far. Ignorance is one of the biggest challenges in overcoming this addiction.

 

bro am new here,sure i will read every aspect,u know i have read many things but whatever i do after getting inspired by those ideal stuff didnt worked,i need a family like this nofap family were i can share each moment

 

have succesfully completed 1 day and 18 hours feeling great