30 days free, and here is how to achieve it

I do agree good tips here. Just be vigilant and inform yourself about the flatline it indirectly makes you x2 feeling lower then before feeling x2 better.

 

Congratulations, and agree that 30 days is a good milestone, but we need to be clean every day to say we are better. The truth is we are addicts and once an addict, always an addict. That means that the only streak that counts is what you did today.

Great advice, especially "ADDRESS YOUR EMOTIONS" For me the reason I go to porn is all about feeling better with my emotions. I need to fix the things that I don't like about my life and stop running to porn for the short gratification that it gives me.

Working on making a better life is the best distraction to avoid porn. Fill your life with positive activities, and dump the toxic porn.

 

I have to confess, this was very refreshing to read. You're completely right about relapsing after a mere 30 days; I've only made it past 30 days twice in my entire life, but thankfully I've learned a lot from my past mistakes.

For example, you touched on a very important point: many people are poor at handling emotional triggers (I.e. disappointment in life). That's what caused my last relapse last year, which is why the need to stay vigilant is so important, especially after a milestone like the one I had.

I appreciate this post, and thank you.

 

Well Done and so true

 

Well done!

 

Very well said my man. I began new year with my longest streak of 26 days. Than manage to do 10 days than less until I was back at it again (it was a better but still I was back). Now I intend to go for more than 26 days, and I know the first week is the toughest, but I wouldn't have been able to tell it to myself until I read it here. So thanks for that <3.

 

This is great advice that you're giving. I reached 30 days last year and remember thinking I could go on cruise control now that I had it under control. How wrong I was smh. Fast forward several months and I'm still trying to get my shit together. I think 90 days would be more of the milestone for that but even then I don't think I'd be able to take my foot off the pedal. These addictions run deep. They've taken years to develop. So to believe that they'd be fixed within 90 days is foolish. It really depends on the person. One other piece of advice I've heard recently that hit home was that you can abstain from acting out but still be addicted. As you mentioned, @ThePerspicacious you need to deal with the underlying emotions... even more, you need to learn how to cope with the underlying emotions in a healthy way. One that is not self-destructive. This addiction, in a sense, is not the problem... it's how you choose to deal with the problem.

 

Great point @Jamessto. In AA as an alcoholic, we call that being a "dry drunk." Our drug of choice is but a symptom of a much deeper issue that must be addressed for any resolution to occur.

Congrats on the 30 days @ThePerspicacious! This is a fantastic milestone. Keep consistent one day at a time - that's ultimately all we got.

Wishing you the best!

 

Congratulations!
Every day and every moment is a battle, but its a battle you can win.

 

Basically, yes, you're right. It obviously changes, depending on the person and their history of PMO, but usually flatlines begin anywhere between days 60 and 80 of a reboot. PMOing before or during this time puts the brain back to the beginning of the reboot sequence. However, you still retain your knowledge and experience of how to cope with triggers, etc.

I've yet to have a flatline from PMO abuse (to date, my all time record of abstinence is 60 days), but I've had something similar coming out of opioid addiction. It's not fun, but it IS a sign of REALLY good progress. Learn to love the flatline.

Congratulations on how well you're doing! All the best.
~Orf