29 years old, career is stuck, gf left recently.

I'll use an analogy. It's like if you start to put together a puzzle and you see all of the pieces that are shaped differently. They all look different, but all of them are necessary to form the final result. Just because you may not be able to figure out how every puzzle piece fits together, in the end, once you take your time and put it together slowly, the final picture will be revealed.

Such is the case for dating. Just because you haven't found the complete whole, that doesn't mean that there are no better partners for you. It's not a perfect analogy, but I hope that it makes sense.

 

I’m in a similar spot. Not the high profile job part, because I’m poor and struggling to get by but the other parts, I identify.

First thing; life is tough and throws you situations you don’t expect. Sometimes situations you specifically planned against and they happen anyway, some completely unexpected. Opportunities and obstacles spring up and turn your life around on a dime. The good news is, you’ll probably land on your feet, no matter what happens to you, and no matter what choices you make to impact the world around you. Not every chance or choice will be a good one, but you’ll have enough openings to turn it around and you’re going to be ok. Sometimes a thing that looks really bad at first can turn out to pave the way for the best thing ever. Sometimes the only good thing that comes of it is you learn something. The only wasted life event, though, is the one where you deny responsibility and keep doing what you were doing, and learn nothing at all.

You’re telling us about this breakup in a porn recovery forum. That means you used too much porn, by your own estimation. Let me tell you, whether she knew about it or not, whether she thought it had an impact or not, your porn use has far, far more to do with the way you act and played a more significant role in this breakup than you know. I’ve been here too long and seen it too often; porn changes the way we behave and relate, for the worse. Porn makes us insensitive and selfish. Porn diminishes our appreciation for the real people in our lives. You can protest “Not me, I was careful, I’m the same kind of person with or without porn.” And you would be in denial. If nothing else happens from this sad chapter of your life, it should be that you are inspired to alter your habits, consequently your relationship trajectory, into something more wholesome, supportive, and strong than they were before.

Onward.

 

This thread help me realize something when you continuous change as a person for the better your a changed person , a person your partner no longer has feelings for then she leaves, I look at couples who r together forever but their boyfriend , husband keeps the same Career his whole life, has the same daily routine in life thus yer feelings for him remain , I've had 8-9 jobs I. My life I always wonder why they always leave me , it's always after I quit for other job ,I'm still planning on finding another career thou lmao but I'm single currently I do feel like a new man an changed drastically this past year