So there's a fair amount of literature out there suggesting that most ladies like their mates to take the lead and actually find enjoyment in being "submissive"---not in any violent or disgusting sense, but simply yielding to a more assertive lover. This literature---much of it designed to train men on how to be more "dominant"---seems to get pretty rave reviews from women. Most of the literature points to romance novels, 50 Shades, etc. as further evidence that most women, though they want to be equal and treated with respect in all areas of life, do prefer to yield to a more assertive lover when it comes to romance. Wondering how the women of our community feel about this.
LOL. Your Bueller reference reeled me in and literally had me laughing out loud. I do like being dominated, yes. Not every time, no, but sometimes. But I find I mostly think I want it rough. When it actually gets painful, even a little, it's not quite what I imagined. Since I'm now reading "Cupid's Poisoned Arrow" about karezza, I think what I like about male dominance is the need it implies. If I were getting that feeling, that he needed me, in more tender, bonding type behaviors, maybe my interest in dominance would be less. I'm starting to get that type of thing and as we continue testing karezza I think my need for dominance could disapear. We'll see. PS I never read 50 shades and I never intend to!
Crap. This thread is a bit of a trigger for me. I have a major dominatrix fantasy But that's OK. My mantra did the trick. "Lust and fantasies = pain and suffering" So I guess this thread is basically "Cue exposure therapy" for me....practice for my new mental pattern.
I'd rather be submissive 90% of the time. My man like me Dom... Ahhh!! So I'm more aggressive. The things we do for love.