Raging Wife

Not too bad thank you. We've been a bit distracted with our teenage son causing issues so in a way it has bought us closer. He has the app installed which has put my mind at rest loads! How are you guys?

I've been having dreams where I'm a slave to my emotions.

Okay, yes! We're doing fine thanks, Day 82 here xx

I had some time out and while out I got a text saying "I know you think I'm lying" no mate I know your lying! He has an app installed now, for as long as I see fit. If he wants forgiveness and trust he needs to earn it. I can't deal with denial when I have proof.

Those apps are pretty neat. though not perfect.
I just know for me personally, if I had a woman who was counting/making me quit, I know I could. but marriage is complicated from what I've seen, what do I know ?

Very complicated but mostly happy if problems like this don't being it down. There are days when I forget and it will be ok. Other days it hits me like a wall :-(

Every person has ability to grow and improve. All they need is initiation and willpower. Be kind.

Men were not born porn addicts they chose to be. Just like people chose to drink, smoke etc. They chose to be weak addicts and I cannot live or love a weak addicted person who has no care for my feelings.

This has made me feel like an empty shell, a psychotic b*tch and I'm going out later to get pissed! Let him have some thinking time. All he wishes is that I never caught him!! Ruined his little pathetic moment! He's a C**T!

I'll say this: Divorcing while you have kids, and over a porn addiction, you should really think this over. Porn addiction isn't the worse marriage problem, and people I have known who divorced over that heavily regret it. Seek consouling.
It'll permantely affect your kids and your families future if you do this.

That was wholesome

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Aayyy!! Enjoy it

Do you know about "codependency"? From what you are saying, it looks like you are codependent/caretaker: you aren't just carrying your own weigth but also that of your husband and father (plus the 5 kids). That's a hell of a lot for one person to handle: do you have any time for yourself?

It's going to be a tough year and you have an immense courage to do everything you've been doing. From where I stand you're a very courageous and persevering person. You're doing what it takes to change your life for the better. You have my full support and respect! Keep doing what you're doing!

I dont do everything, he does help a bit, and when I'm really down he takes over the house and the kids but he does get very stressed. I carry us all with his help. He is brave too for telling me, I wanted him to rid himself of the shame and now it is slowly coming back because of my honesty about my feelings, something I wont ever stop doing. He needs to seek help and I'm right there with him.x

Yea I wouldnt blame you for worrying if hes not working, I can see how you could want to make yourself available so he doesn't need P.

I think should make him do some simple task before you let anything happen.

Try to get him to notice he has to make the effort to do somthing nice for you before you make yourself available

Yes I think you hit the nail on the head there. He needs to do something nice for me, and not just the school run or cook dinner etc, something for me, not for house or kids that i would usually do that he needs congratulations for when he does it! He got me flowers yesterday but that was because he lied to me about something small, and that's why I was paranoid because I knew he was lying about or hiding something.

Congrats on 7 weeks. Seems like you're not satisfied with him. Past exp tells me you need him to listen to your needs. Try to tell him directly/indirectly. Don't rush on solution/conclusion.

Well done! You can be proud of him :)!

Very proud! He keeps himself busy.

I'm sure it depends, but hopefully he can just fantasize about you and include your feelings, that seems like it would not be a problem.

That's great!