Changing perceptions toward rebooting to succeed at nofap...

First I will start by providing you with three books.

http://www.spiritualriver.com/media/OvercomingAddiction-SpiritualRiver.pdf

http://quitpornin30days.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/07/quit-porn-in-30-days-pdf.pdf

http://www.amazon.com/Ten-Keys-Breaking-Pornography-Addiction-ebook/dp/B005R3MHV0

Second : Reading instructions...

(1) No matter how motivated you are, you WILL read only 10 PAGES A DAY.
(2) That should take not less than 9 days.

In these books the secret of successful recovery is given. And that is--

"In order to succeed at recovery, you absolutely need to switch to holistic recovery instead of just abstaining."

This is IMPORTANT.

Addiction didnt just impacted your brain. It impacted your athletic abilities. It impacted your taste in music and food. It impacted your health. It impacted your studies.

So, just tell me. How are you supposed to reboot if you dont improve at all of these? And even if you did, you will still be dragged down in life when these abities are tested, be it the sports ground or just a casual conversation. And that low self esteem will make you more susceptible to relapse.

So, you need to work on these.

ABOUT RELAPSES :

If you relapse, you need to change your strategy. Just identify what times, places, situations you get triggered in and place your strategies. Notice, I say strategy, not tactic. Its not "I will play minesweeper". It is "I will take a bath, take my dog and go out for a walk". There is a remarkable difference in these approaches, and this is where most of us fail. Notice that three tactics comprise of this strategy, thus making it more powerful. Secondly, it focuses on you. You will feel good after a bath. You will feel good after a walk with your dog.

Your strategy should be something that you love or something that makes you care about yourself.
Doing 50 pushups during an urge is less likely to work because when you are tired and sleepy, doing pushups itself will take willpower, which you are using in the moment of urge.

ABOUT WORK-ETHICS

This is an integral part of recovery. If you view your work as a burden, official or passion realted, you will tend to avoid it. This requires changing perception towards work. Also, we need to work in just 25 minute packets and take a rest of 5 minutes(the pomodoro technique). This prevents burnout in any type of work. But, most importantly, never expect more than 5 hours of quality work on a single day. And lastly, never let your work judge yourself. Only that way, you will stay happy and creative.

ABOUT PASSION

Passion is absolutely critical. This reinforces a felling of self worth in you. But, most importantly, it provides you with a good and healthy relaxation. It may be tough to get good at something, but believe me, it is awesome. I took up harmonica in late october, and in december I have become pretty good at it. It also gives you something to think about other than quitting porn. And once an idea hits you, you WILL forget about porn and study and just be so curious and try it out. I once started playing at a bus stand(How weird is that??). That my friend is the power of a passion.

ABOUT BOREDOM

Boredom is one state you want to avoid in early recovery. But, once you are comfortable with rebooting, it will be a storehouse of ideas. For me, my best ideas strike when I am most bored. Maybe thats why I force myself to be bored. Like in trains, it is very hard not to pop your headphones in. But, if you manage to avoid it, you will find an idea. But, this only applies if you HAVE a passion.


Share your view guys!!

And best of luck!!