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Chronic fapper. Great life. Loads of confidence. GF. Limp dick.

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Limp Biscuits, Mar 18, 2016.

  1. Limp Biscuits

    Limp Biscuits Fapstronaut

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    I'm 29 years old. I've had this limp dick problem since forever (it has gotten worse over the years). Done all the blood tests and all that, everything comes back "normal".

    I masturbate to porn (not death-grip) every day... up to 4 or 5 times a day.

    I have a GF and a sex life.

    The problem is that I can't get hard (easily), stay hard (for more than 10 sec), and orgasm (I dont orgasm from sex any more). ... unless I masturbate with my own hand and even then it takes a lot of concentration, time, and effort than it used to. This usually involves me tensing up my leg muscles (legs sticking out) while in a seated (computer chair) or lying down (on bed) position and then fapping away with my legs extended out until climax.

    I've tried NoFap before for over two months straight - total monk mode. There was NO DIFFERENCE at all and that's why I don't have any motivation to try again.

    Can somebody tell me if they've managed to fix this exact problem that I have?

    I don't have any of the other problems people keep talking about here (confidence, work life, school life, etc.) My life is already perfect except for the limp dick problem. I have loads of friends, great school/work, great family, health, everything.

    C'mon, motivate me with some truth!
     
    Last edited: Mar 23, 2016
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  2. ByeForever!!

    ByeForever!! Fapstronaut

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    Go see a doctor.
    60 days is not enough. Do 120 days monk mode.
     
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  3. I fully understand the problem, I could only O by doggy since I then moved my hips on my own and tensioned my legs and but. All other was just forget it.

    When you did nofap before did you still watch porn? Edging?

    I have not gong 60 days yet but I understand now for me P is the devil not M.

    60 days is absolutely not enough. I am on day 45 and don't feel any difference.
     
  4. Limp Biscuits

    Limp Biscuits Fapstronaut

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    The (more than) two months that I did was total monk mode: no porn, NoFap, no edging.

    I understand how P can be the devil and not M... and I have gone long periods without Porn, but still... this problem persists.

    I have a girlfriend that loves sex and I can't just go total monk mode on her without endangering the relationship. Besides, it seems like a huge sacrifice for a stab in the dark. My libido is the only thing left and if that dies too then I'll just be a zombie going through life.

    ED meds like sildenafil work great for me. I get raging rock hard erections and thanks to not orgasming, I can go for like 3 or 4 hours of sex before my muscles give way. I always finish using my own hand.

    :-( How will I ever make babies? I'll have to masturbate into a vagina. That's so sad. I feel terrible about this.
     
  5. RKS331

    RKS331 Fapstronaut

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    Limp Biscuits I hear and I feel you because I've been there. I commend you on the 60 day no PMO but as other's have said 60 days is not enough. Understand this, your years of EXCESSIVE PMO have caused damaged to you physically and psychologically. From the way you describe it seems like extreme damage. What happened when you went the sixty days is that you simply got discouraged so you stopped trying. In this battle my brother stopping is NEVER the solution. Think about it you've spent years absolute punishing your body and psyche with PMO and if you're not seeing signs of recovery in 2 months you think it's not working? Does that make sense to you? Start over my friend. Your goal should be to rid yourself of this devil for life but as the saying goes "yard by yard is hard but inch by inch is a cinch". Set your goal this time for 90 to 120 days. Also, at this point I would suggest that you go into complete monk mode. Including not having sex with your girlfriend. I understand that it might damage the current relationship but this is your LIFE we're talking about brother. This shit is very, very, very serious. Girlfriends come and go. If you take this seriously and explain to her what the deal is she may leave; in that case good riddance. If she stays and supports you through the process she may be a keeper. Either way it's a win/win for you. Also, as you go through this process use this as an opportunity to improve your overall health. You would be surprised how thing's like diet, exercise, thought and stress management can affect your sexual health. I say all that to say this brother there is definitely hope. Especially at your age but you have to refrain from sex all together even in your thoughts. Remember the idea isn't to get right from refraining for a long period of time and then fall back when you think you're good. A crack addicts goal isn't to get clean so they can start smoking crack again. Make sense? Fuck the zero my friend! No relapsing!

    Cheers and God Speed,

    RKS
     
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  6. RKS331

    RKS331 Fapstronaut

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    Change your profile pic too bro. Don't approach this fight like a wimp or you'll get your ass whipped. Just like people going into fights expecting to lose do. You are a conqueror putting all things under your feet. You cannot be dominated by anything. Find the man (the spiritual man) in you that is addicted to PMO and choke that bitch out until he's fully arrested. In this case you're the bully so act like it!

    [​IMG]

    Now that's more like it!
     
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  7. AlmostRuined

    AlmostRuined Fapstronaut

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    PIED is a medical epidemic for guys in their 20's. Medical journals have started addressing pied seriously over the last couple years because of the shear volume of young, otherwise healthy guys that can hardly even wank much less be intimate. 4-5 times a day is much more than the body can handle (except maybe on a virgin couple's honeymoon). 60 days is not enough. Your brain needs to heal free from orgasm for 3-6 months. Most medical journals agree that the length of healing time of the brain for pied is proportional to the length and frequency of the masturbation habit. Taking the pills will work and feel awesome but it delays your recovery. You may lose your libido and the ED can come and go many times before the healing is conplete. So just because you start waking up with raging morning wood, does not mean your cured. There are few things more frustrating then to be a young man that can't function like a man! I'm sure PIED isn't the only symptom of your self abuse so let your self heal! Fight for your life back!
     
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  8. Limp Biscuits

    Limp Biscuits Fapstronaut

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    That's my problem. I've been choking my penis out like a wrestler for the last 18 years.
     
  9. hey, I hope you find some help, support and good advice here as you deal with your issue.
    I'd also recommend you see a sex therapist one who specializes in all things sex. they are actually rare . most therapists claim to do "sex therapy" but their education is limited. try to get access to a Sexologist I think they call themselves. if you can't then try buying a book by a sex specialist named chris Donoghue called Sex outside the lines. ironically this guy might claim sex addictions don't exist which I do not support or agree with it all. I see where he's coming from though. he doesn't want sex addiction to be an excuse for people to cheat in relationships and he doesn't want normal healthy people being shamed. however in a lot of cases we all know sex addiction does exist and can take over our lives. any way his book has some helpful stuff in it and a lot of info in there might help you and can relate to your situation.
    it's also good to talk to an ED specialist and discuss all options. I doubt relying on erection pills is a good idea long term. it might even be harmful if you rely on that as a cruch which could shield you from finding your optimal combination of possible acceptance and/or total transformation and healing. maybe meds will be a helpful tool to you.
    good luck
     
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  10. RKS331

    RKS331 Fapstronaut

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    You know what I meant bro. How have you been progressing?
     
  11. Limp Biscuits

    Limp Biscuits Fapstronaut

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    I'm on Day 17. I allow myself normal sex, but no masturbating (even during sex), no fantasizing (even during sex), and no porn or porn alternatives.

    I think this is the best way. Even though I don't watch much porn now, I am still activating the same old porno pathways in my brain by always fantasizing. So, that's why I've also banned myself from fantasizing.

    I'm allowing myself normal sex because those are the pathways I want to restore in my brain. So, I hope to get pleasure from and crave normal sex, rather than porn/fantasies.

    Going strong so far - as I said, I'm on day 17. I've set a mental goal of 90 days but of course, I will continue beyond that too. Until now, no positive effects on my limp penis.
     
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