Successful Guys, is it really possible to quit MO?

I'm 19 (20 in a month) and I can assure you it's been 7 months since I last masturbated and that I could write an entire book with my success story. But... I'm a girl, so this might be quite different, but I still am loaded in hormones. I personally have regular wet dreams, especially around periods and such which leads me to think that it's quite similar to you boys. I'm sorry I can't help you with the hard-ons It's not as simple as taking cold showers, it's as hard as saying no and this is the hardest thing in the world I humbly believe.

And to give you my personal opinion: I gave up masturbation because it was impossible for me to quit it... As it was impossible to watch porn without masturbating and to orgasm without porn. For me, and also because of my religious beliefs, any attempts to say that it is "healthy" (I don't say natural, but healthy, as in good for your health", is rationalization and simply pure idiocy. Just my two cents. I care only about facts, and what I'm seeing is that I quit masturbating 7 months ago and never felt better with myself than during these period. So for me, quitting as been healthier.


Up to you. Anyway I wish you the best of the world!

 

I am almost 19 and for me I am doing hard mode for 90 days. I am at day 27 or 28. Once I reach my goal I will then see what I want to do. So far no M is good because if I were to masturbate I would want to watch porn. I get quite a few wet dreams. I think I have gotten 2 or 3 in the current streak. Let me tell you I get hard so easily and it is though to resist. However not giving in makes me stronger and so you feel more of the benefits. For example I have so much confidence and energy. The average healthy man is suppossed to get around 10-12 erections a day...I think. The days were I would PMO I don't think I could reach 10-12 I would probably get 6-7. So that kind of disproves the statement saying masturbation is healthy. Although I believe masturbation to be healthy and natural to a certain extent... as long as it is done like once every week or 2 weeks. I believe abstaining to also be healthy and natural. I feel much healthier since I have quit but that is because I exercise more. Now to control my hard ons I normally let the dirty thoughts pass instead of feeding them. When I get hard I will stretch my leg muscles or do push ups just to get the blood flowing elsewhere. Do the 90 days first and then see where you want to go from there.

As for young people, I think the reason you hear less about them is because 1. they are more on reddit. 2. They haven't been pmo-ing for like +15 years like the adults, so the young people don't realise how much of a problem porn can be. 3. Most of my friends laugh at nofap but don't forget some young people lack the wisdom to understand the detriments of porn where as the older people have experienced it already. ex. I don't suffer from PIED but an older version of myself might if I kept up my habits. So older people realise the ED whereas young people aren't even worried about it.

ps. they are plenty of young success stories on reddit go check it out!

 

Hi there, I'm 23 and I just turned 24 today so it is my birthday today

To answer the question of the thread, yes it is possible as long you're determined not to MO.
I'm single like you and I've been MOing for like eight years and I always found it to release a strong energy and I couldn't control.That's true if you're married it will make it easy because there is sex and the man will be more motivated to leave it for two important reasons, for sex life and for his family sake ( Wife,sons...) As being single the two reasons aren't available to you so million of guys run to that an excuse and I'm included but the truth is we are fooling ourselves for such an excuse.Even if it is healthy to do and acceptable but it doesn't change the fact you are all alone when you do it, you just did it by yourself alone.MO can be addictive in times even if you're trying to control it,you'll end up do it again and again until you decide to go back to watch porn again.I personally will not MO again althought it is hard to resist,I have to endure because strong men do and besides I'm enjoying my wet dream and I had three on this current streak and man I cannot tell how amazing they were like it was real.
Anyways back to the topic, I know this is hard and you wished another answer but it is truth,Remeember if it is hard for you it also hard for all of us guys or even gals so you're not alone in this.
Good luck to all of us

 

Hello A-D. How come you are called a Distinguished Fapstronaut if the last time you fapped was just 7 months ago?

 

"Just" 7 months ago? That's quite an achievement, and I'd say she's rebooted.

 

Well, I am 16 years old and I have rebooted. The idea still creeps into my mind every once in a while that it would be fun to watch porn again, but then I remind myself of why I am here and what I've accomplished. I also remember how I will feel afterwords, but these thoughts come very rarely.

The urges of MO will be with me for a long time. Although, I know that I've rebooted because the intense cravings and urges to PMO and MO are gone.

I wrote a thread in General NoFap. Here it is... http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?18004-Want-to-reboot-Read-this!-*GUIDE-TO-REBOOT*

I have a few techniques for dealing with erections... One is holding my breath and counting to 20-40 seconds. The whole kegel muscle thing doesn't really work for me, but you might want to try it. Since I've rebooted, I have developed the ability to just stop an erection, or make myself soft again by just focusing on my junk and telling it to get smaller... it sounds creepy, but it works the best for ME!

Good luck,

~Squeaky Soul

 

I'm 19 years of age.

 

This word "rebooted" is not a medical term. I believe it only exists in these forums. I am skeptical of the word. I agree with IGY 7 months is nothing when it comes to addictions, no offense. Yes it is huge. I know how getting through one day and not fapping is huge, but unfortunately this site does not have many "long-term" fapless members. This site is pioneering. We should all strive to attain 5 years. 10 years. 25 years... So we can help people and also continue to motivate ourselves. Addictions are cunning, baffling and powerful.

The obsession does decrease with time away from it like any addiction. But this IS an addiction. Despite us telling ourselves we do not want to fap, we find ourselves doing it day after day. Sometimes hour after hour. Feeling guilt and shame and wanting to stop and not being able to. Fighting back an addiction is hard. But it can be done. It is a lifelong battle for those who want truely never fuck themselves again.

 

Im just saying in any other addiction based group,AA, even SA, less than a year is far FAR from considered anything to be toted about. The history of the groups are longer though. But there are many. I mean many relapses in addiction all the way up to the 13 year mark that i have heard of. You can't slip. Because that one slip, especially done by someone who throws away alot of time, opens that addiction right back up like they just started fapping yesterday. And then they have a field day with it. And then even become complacent. And all the hard work is lost. Stick to the forums... Don't fap. Goodluck.

 

IGY why not you make it to month 7 and then you can tell us what is distinguished and what isn't. You got six more months to go.

You can quit mo but I know people put all this emphasis on it but its not mo that you want otherwise people would have these huge streaks its the highs and lows. Is mo'ing healthy i'm not even sure. But when you get a hard on just flex your muscles and try to think of something else. Yeah I've started getting wet dreams more often but I suppose you just accept it. It comes out one way or another. But if you mo like once in a month thats 29 days free so don't think all your progress is gone. Consecutively it is but p is the enemy Mo just put in moderation if quitting seems hard like maybe 3 to 4 times a week then every 2 weeks and taper off but only if you must don't do it just because its your day. Good luck man.

 

Well, I think PMO is the worst kind of addiction. If you're an alcoholic, you need to drive to a place, buy drinks, and keep drinking to get drunk. If you're a drug addict, you basically do the same thing. You have to go somewhere and pay with money, sex, or any other item of interest to get the drug you want.

With PMO, it's all basically free. All you need is your hand and an internet access. No money, no special connection, and it's not illegal. The reason it's so dangerous is because everyone has easy access to it.

Imagine a world where your home came with a built in unlimited addictive drug dispenser... PMO is basically that.

~Squeaky Soul

 

I'm going to have to disagree with you there. Yes, sometimes people fap in abundance after one relapse, because of the chaser effect. Most people do that because they feel shitty about one relapse and lose hope. But one relapse isn't the end of the world. I'll say that again, one relapse is not the end of the world. They need to just dust themselves off and not relapse again.

But you're saying it like everyone does it. And not everyone does it like that. Say you go an entire month without fapping, then you fap, and then you reset your badge/counter. Even though you've just fapped, you've still made a lot of progress by not fapping for a month. All your hard work doesn't go down the drain, and your addiction isn't in the same state as it was before. Also, if you think all your progress goes away after one relapse, then that justifies relapsing over and over again. Like said in this (http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=15558.0) thread, the "After I relapse, it's back to step one, zero days for me, all progress lost" mentality is counterproductive and harmful because you're losing sight of the big picture. You're losing sight of all the progress you've made. The guy who fapped after a month of abstinence isn't in the same boat as the guy who still faps everyday. Yes, I'm only on day 8, but I haven't been able to go that long in a while, so I say I've made some progress.

Just because Mark Ruffalo's character in "Thanks for Sharing" relapses hard and goes back to day one after being clean for 5 years doesn't mean all relapses are like that. Say your first relapse was a "hard" relapse, but your second relapse only took 2 minutes. That's progress!

Am I saying I can relapse once and get back on the wagon? Yes and no. I'm just not going to relapse because I know it's pointless and I don't want to do it, not even to prove a point. However, I'm not afraid of relapsing because I know I can control this. And like I said, it's not the end of the world. Don't worry about relapsing, don't worry about gaining control over this addiction, just DON'T relapse. DON'T look at porn. DON'T touch your genitals, except to clean them and use the bathroom. Simple as that. If you follow those simple guidelines, you'll be rebooted before you know it.

 

I like this post.

Personally I am only a couple weeks in. I fapped daily [often multiple times] since I was 9. I am currently 23. I started looking at porn when I was 6. Am I some experienced guru who can stand here and tell you I will NEVER do it again? No. I can tell you that I believe you can truly quit.

 

Note, that this is my first time ever trying to quit in 14 years. The porn part is the hardest part for me to give up.