hi i am trying to control my porn viewing addiction and trying to stop fapping.i was able to control both for 35 days.but from last two days i am not able to control both as i have relapse it feel really bad though.as i dont want to get into this shit habits.i used to meditate regularly.it really help but it was diffcult to control urge to masturbate.can u please give me some suggestion.so that i can be sober
Hi StopFap, welcome to the forum! I'm no expert on this, and I'm still a beginner, but I think a really important thing is to not be too hard on ourselves. This can be an addiction that goes on for years and years, and something that has become that hardwired into us can be really difficult to break; and just the fact that you managed to make it 35 days is an amazing feat. (Heck, my longest time in the last 12 years is 9 days, so 35 days is like an awesome achievement in my eyes). So don't beat yourself up over it too much; get back onto it and maybe look at it as a challenge? So you had made it to 35 days, now... see if you can beat that? Also, I found this thread at another forum useful: http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=5734.0 - The top three fatal mistakes rebooters make. It's really helpful.
Good luck buddy just keep strong through ups and downs and keep your eye on the prize, which, like many good posters here say, is not some streak or other stat, but rather the reward of a better life in the long run.
thanks guys for support.but please anybody can tell me what i am supposed to do when i had that really bad feeling about myself.i have relapse many times because of bad feeling.
Sounds like you're going through a flatline phase, commonly reported by nofappers. My recommendation is to get outside and keep busy. If you don't have any business, engineer some for yourself. Go for a long walk, hang out with friends, anything to get yourself up and doing something. Try to minimize time spent online, as well.
