Hi Everyone, My name is Hugo, I'm 29 years old and live in Portugal. I've been struggling with Porn addiction for several years and have tried numerous times to quit but have never been able to do so. My behaviour has destroyed my marriage and I'm actually getting legally divorced next week. I've quit the church I used to go to and I'm changing my life so that I can feel that I can be in control of myself because I want to and not because of rules imposed by society or religion. I don't feel that I'm a bad person but I feel shame and regret because of this addiction. I will highly appreciate if I can get some help from you guys as I struggle to get back in control of my own life. Best regards, Hugo
Welcome! Keep coming back. Interacting here will help. Below my comment is a link that may help as well.
Welcome to this community. This community surely does help if yo wish to give up from your heart. I would suggest you to read most success stories of other people so that you can have extra motivation and strength to get rid out of this habit. I read most success stories and now i feel like i can quit this PMO habit forever. Trust me. Trust your senses. You are never too old to start something new. I started to learn programming(Python) to spend my leisure time and i was always passionate to learn something new. You can follow this if you have desire to learn something from long time. I was addicted to 13 years. Here is my story goes: http://nofap.com/forum/index.php?th...e-in-second-chance-to-undo.47248/#post-326622
Thanks guys really appreciate your support and encouragement. I'm on my 5th day and so far so good. I've been reading some of your stories and it really helps. I think the difference between this time and all the other times I tried to quit before is that I'm doing this for myself now. No more because of what others want or might think, no more because of religious beliefs but because I want to and I understand this is a behaviour that has brought nothing good to my life.
You're quite right it HAS to be for yourself. Take everything else out of the equation and do this for you. It's difficult but it gets easier. Never let your guard down and try to replace bad habits with good ones. Good luck
I'm on my 6th day now and still motivated to do this. There are times when its hard. I see some of you guys saying that it's difficult but that it gets easier.. any idea when more or less that happens? Just thinking that it will be frustrating to live on constant alert for the rest of my life you know? It would be good to be able to relax a bit eventually without constantly having to focus so that I don't screw up again.
Hugo: I would say it gets easier with each week. I don't think you can have a standard answer, as far as what happens at what week. For me, it was a lot easier after 30-40 days, and again as I approached 70 days. Yet just last night, I felt some urges that surprised me. I dealt with them effectively, but I was reminded, I'm still vulnerable to temptation. And, I would add: I think there are two reasons it gets easier. First, because your brain is shifting from being accustomed to high stimulation to less; and second, because of the power of habit; it takes several weeks to form a new habit, and as we form new ones, they become more durable than the one that they replaced.
Septimus, thank you mate. Really appreciate your help I'm on my 7th day now and still feel highly motivated. I do have urges of course but now I think of the choice I consciously made to stop PMO and so I don't give in to those urges. Looking forward to having less urges though
Hi, I know this is a bit off topic, but can someone please tell me how you set up the goal tracker so many people have?
Foxtrot: Click on my tracker; do what it says. Up at the top of the NoFap page, to the right, click on your name; you'll see "your signature." That's where you add the code to include the tracker.
Good to see Portuguese people around! "Olá, tudo bem?" Do you feel yourself recovered? Did you reach the 90th day? All the best!
